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I'm making money, I'm actually doing something I can be somewhat proud of, and - quite frankly - I'm bored, so I decided to give online dating a shot while I'm here training in Arizona. About two and half weeks ago, I met a girl I actually liked a great deal.
We went out, and things went AMAZINGLY well. She was cute, vivacious, and smart, and I had her rolling laughing pretty much the whole time. We started with dinner, moved on to a party with her friends, and finished off the night sharing a plate of french fries at a local dive bar. She comes from an Army family, so she seemed fairly impressed with my professional prospects (she actually got a bit of a twinkle in her eye while I was talking about my future plans). Hell! We even got into politics and religion a little bit, and she seemed to be into it - though she, admittedly, swings more Left than Right.
I "stumbled on the five yard line" a bit with an abortive attempt at a kiss at the end of the night, but she didn't seem to mind. We're still texting fairly regularly, for extended periods of time, and on a reciprocal basis. She texts me at least as much as I text her.
Here's the thing though... She seems really squirrely about actually hanging out again.
She's actually gone so far as to make plans, or suggest going out to a certain location, only to make up excuses to get out of it again before we go. She'll say she's "too tired," or "looks ugly," or etca, etca. We actually had a date to watch a football game together this Thursday (her idea, believe it or not), and she got kind of passive aggressive and made me reschedule because I work late that day, and wouldn't be able to get there until around half-time. Now, she's talking about doing Saturday instead.
I mean... Is it just me, or is this kind of weird?
It's like I've got to be the romantic/spontaneous one here, and she's the fuddy-duddy. That's more than a bit odd for me to say the least. :lol:
Do you think she's playing games? That she's just kind of an overly rigid perfectionist? That she's holding back because I'm only here temporarily, or what?
Is it even worth the effort to pursue if she's this much of a pain?
I hate to say it, but I assume there's probably a reason why a girl this outwardly desirable is still single in her late twenties, after all.
(And, no, Goddamnit. This isn't a 'cry for help' either. I just thought the dilemma would make for a somewhat interesting conversation. :roll
We went out, and things went AMAZINGLY well. She was cute, vivacious, and smart, and I had her rolling laughing pretty much the whole time. We started with dinner, moved on to a party with her friends, and finished off the night sharing a plate of french fries at a local dive bar. She comes from an Army family, so she seemed fairly impressed with my professional prospects (she actually got a bit of a twinkle in her eye while I was talking about my future plans). Hell! We even got into politics and religion a little bit, and she seemed to be into it - though she, admittedly, swings more Left than Right.
I "stumbled on the five yard line" a bit with an abortive attempt at a kiss at the end of the night, but she didn't seem to mind. We're still texting fairly regularly, for extended periods of time, and on a reciprocal basis. She texts me at least as much as I text her.
Here's the thing though... She seems really squirrely about actually hanging out again.
She's actually gone so far as to make plans, or suggest going out to a certain location, only to make up excuses to get out of it again before we go. She'll say she's "too tired," or "looks ugly," or etca, etca. We actually had a date to watch a football game together this Thursday (her idea, believe it or not), and she got kind of passive aggressive and made me reschedule because I work late that day, and wouldn't be able to get there until around half-time. Now, she's talking about doing Saturday instead.
I mean... Is it just me, or is this kind of weird?
It's like I've got to be the romantic/spontaneous one here, and she's the fuddy-duddy. That's more than a bit odd for me to say the least. :lol:
Do you think she's playing games? That she's just kind of an overly rigid perfectionist? That she's holding back because I'm only here temporarily, or what?
Is it even worth the effort to pursue if she's this much of a pain?
I hate to say it, but I assume there's probably a reason why a girl this outwardly desirable is still single in her late twenties, after all.
(And, no, Goddamnit. This isn't a 'cry for help' either. I just thought the dilemma would make for a somewhat interesting conversation. :roll
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