Tick tock, Greg. If I am not mistaken (and granted, I haven't checked), you are getting dangerously close to that 6-month window of inaction at which you told me to start kicking your ass.
You think I forgot? :twisted:
So, what's your choice? Is this cool for now, something you believe in, or do you want to move out? Either is justifiable if you own it and are sincere about making it work for you and not simply be something you allow yourself to wallow in. Neither means you "have" to be single, or involved, or whatever.
Aaanyway, good for you. As far as being "single as ****," I sympathize greatly, as an introvert who tends to value my cave and has had to re-adjust after taking a hiatus from dating.
Don't think of it as "answering to" anyone. If you two are compatible and honest, you will largely agree on how you want to do things, which will be based on what you actually want, rather than what you think you should want. That alone will make life much easier. If you find yourself feeling you are "answering to" someone rather than "making choices WITH someone," then there as a problem.
Push yourself... slowly. Getting used to working with people is sort of a process, which will begin with perfectly reasonable things seeming very unreasonable. But seeing some kind of fruit of your labor, and remembering to try to look at things from their perspective, will help. Along with all the hormones and infatuation of the early months of a relationship, which I find quite stress-inducing, but most people seem to enjoy.
How do you do it? Some combination of talking and listening, and then doing the stuff you talked about, and if necessary, talking about it some more if something goes wrong or feels weird. Sounds unhelpful, but that's really what it is.
LOL
Thanks for the encouragement! No, I haven't forgotten. :mrgreen:
Yeah... At the moment, I'm leaning towards "good enough for right now," but I'm definitely going to see how this plays out. I've already got plans to see her next week (and actually tried to set something up for V-day, though conflicting schedules got in the way - I work late, she works early).
Either way, we're still running in the same social circles here. We'll hardly be strangers whatever happens.
Just wait and see how things play out, I guess. :shrug:
Trying to find the right balance with this kind of thing is what I find difficult. Play it too causal, and she'll think you're not interested (which, apparently, just made this particular girl more interested, so... Score for me, I guess lol). Come on too strong, and you risk scaring her off.
Ultimately, you're right, however. The lion's share of this comes down to simple compatibility at the end of the day. Things either click or they don't.
After tax? That's doable. I've done it. I even had a sickly cat and an overly expensive phone plan at the time. Hell, try a studio -- you could get one below that. Or move in with your brother, like you said.
Tick tock, Greg.
Eeeehhh... It'd be cutting it kind of close, that's for damn sure. Lol
I already pay like $400 a month in bills between my car, my insurance, and my phone. I spend a couple of hundred more on gas, lunch on the job, and etca. I'm not even really sure what utilities cost around here either. I'm going to need a roomie, at the very least, before I risk it.
You're right. There is my brother.
The only issue there is that he's kind of a giant doof who sucks with money, so I'm not sure if I trust him. Ever seen the movie "Due Date?" Yeah... He's basically Zack Galifianakis. :lamo
He actually makes a little bit more than I do. Yet, where I start breaking out in hives if my account falls under a thousand, he never seems to even have enough money to buy a damn fast food burger. Lol
I might revisit that after I see how I do on my tax return this year, however. I actually lucked out last year, and managed to net a pretty decent one, along with more than a couple extra training missions with the Army that had me sitting pretty all summer. Unfortunately, I had a car and computer repair, as well as a phone replacement, come up late last year, so things are kind of rough again at the moment.