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I've been pondering, in the last few weeks, if marital expectations + food etiquette results in larger caloric intake on routine basis.
Examples...
Married Couple:
Wife cooks dinner almost every night. Regardless of how her husband feels (tired / sick / worn out), she expects him to eat the food she's taken the time to prepare. He thus ends up eating even if not hungry.
The situation could be reversed - he has decided to bring home something his wife enjoys eating and to preserve feelings, she eats it even if she might not be hungry for it.
Thus: regardless of appetite, both situations involve an expectation to eat in order to avoid disappointment, wasted time and money, or hurt feelings (etc).
Dating Singles:
Regardless of overall relationship status, one often is on their own for food. Occasionally dating or having food prepared is common, having someone cook for you while expecting you to eat said food almost every night is not common when dating.
Thus, dating individuals consume less calories since their appetite dictates most consumption.
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Thoughts?
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This has come to mind because I'm the one responsible for most food that comes into the house and what gets fixed for dinner. If we have an unhealthy diet going on it's because of my choices. I don't like pressuring my husband to eat if he's not hungry - but often he will eat when I've prepared dinner, no matter how he's feeling.
On occasion my husband is home for lunch. I work from home. He sometime stops by fast food places at random and brings home things like pizza or hamburgers. Regardless of what I've already eaten (often = nothing), I feel driven by wasted-money guilt and you-were-thinking-of-me guilt to eat whatever this food might be. If I'm not hungry I eat half.
In both situations the other has made food-related decisions toward caloric (etc) intake.
After being married for 13 years I wonder just how many calories we've eaten form marital etiquette (etc) and not hunger.
Examples...
Married Couple:
Wife cooks dinner almost every night. Regardless of how her husband feels (tired / sick / worn out), she expects him to eat the food she's taken the time to prepare. He thus ends up eating even if not hungry.
The situation could be reversed - he has decided to bring home something his wife enjoys eating and to preserve feelings, she eats it even if she might not be hungry for it.
Thus: regardless of appetite, both situations involve an expectation to eat in order to avoid disappointment, wasted time and money, or hurt feelings (etc).
Dating Singles:
Regardless of overall relationship status, one often is on their own for food. Occasionally dating or having food prepared is common, having someone cook for you while expecting you to eat said food almost every night is not common when dating.
Thus, dating individuals consume less calories since their appetite dictates most consumption.
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Thoughts?
---
This has come to mind because I'm the one responsible for most food that comes into the house and what gets fixed for dinner. If we have an unhealthy diet going on it's because of my choices. I don't like pressuring my husband to eat if he's not hungry - but often he will eat when I've prepared dinner, no matter how he's feeling.
On occasion my husband is home for lunch. I work from home. He sometime stops by fast food places at random and brings home things like pizza or hamburgers. Regardless of what I've already eaten (often = nothing), I feel driven by wasted-money guilt and you-were-thinking-of-me guilt to eat whatever this food might be. If I'm not hungry I eat half.
In both situations the other has made food-related decisions toward caloric (etc) intake.
After being married for 13 years I wonder just how many calories we've eaten form marital etiquette (etc) and not hunger.