So part of my hiatus from this site was due to changes in work (a good thing), but at some point my marriage disintegrated (bad thing) which kept me away even longer. My ex had an affair, and without going into too much detail, over the course of attempting counseling it became obvious she wanted no part in trying to make the relationship work again. She basically just wanted it to "blow over" and just be an "oops" moment. For my part I couldn't quite wrap my head around that. So for the sake of each others sanity we mutually decided to separate. It seems to work, and we do have two kids together who are doing good with everything as our anger towards each other is no longer directed onto the kids inadvertently. So while that is a bad thing to go through, it's been handled by both of us very well and without dramatics.
However, it's left me in a predicament as I am not an outgoing person. I'm a nice guy, but I can't just walk up to a person and start talking to them. I find dating ridiculously difficult due to being in a strange spot in life, 36 with two kids. So I don't really I feel I appeal to younger women at this point as having kids is probably the equivalent or worse than having an STD. And I just figure all the good older women have been gotten at this point. I don't really do bars anymore, and my only interest at this point is working out, which I usually do alone. I can't seem to figure out where I fit in culturally either. I've tried the dating site thing, but every woman's profile is the same. They want to travel and go on adventures. I have small kids, I don't get to just jet out of town on adventures.
I guess I just feel lost and without appeal. Just looking for some advice.