Thread: 10 Reasons Why Women Cheat

This should be titled, "10 Pathetic Excuses Some Women Choose to be Disgusting Evil Cheating Trash." I've posted articles before about trashy cheating cad men who should be shot. Here's one about women. In case you haven't noticed, I have zero sympathy for anyone, man or woman, who cheats.

Women In Their 40s Are Having Great Sex... Just Not With Their Husbands

Over the past few years, I've witnessed a growing number of married couples in my fortysomething peer group calling it quits. Not surprisingly, infidelity is a factor in many of these breakups. What is surprising is that it's the women -- not the men-- who are cheating.

Although recent high-profile scandals have involved cheating men (think John Edwards, Anthony Weiner, Arnold Schwarzenegger), a study out of Indiana University finds that women today cheat at about the same rate as men, and that the number of unfaithful women is growing. The study showed that 19 percent of married women and 23 percent of married men reported cheating, statistics that reflect a closing of the cheating gender gap. (Note: These numbers are probably on the conservative side because they reflect the percentage of people who admitted to cheating. Presumably, the numbers of unfaithful partners is higher.) Research from the 1990s found that only 10 percent of married women reported being unfaithful. According to these numbers, female infidelity may one day rival or even surpass male cheating.

Another interesting fact? According to the study, the most common age for women to have an affair is 45. For men, it's 55.

Full Article:
Samantha Parent Walravens: Women In Their 40s Are Having Great Sex... Just Not With Their Husbands

The excuses and my comments.

1. Greater confidence. Women in their 40s have fewer insecurities and are more confident about their bodies, their careers and themselves. They know who they are and feel comfortable in their skin. Many have jobs outside the house and an identity apart from that of mother/wife. Working outside the house also provides women more opportunities to meet men -- and to pursue affairs -- than their stay-at-home counterparts.

Great. If you have greater confidence sign up and run a race, run for office, go for a promotion. More confidence does not mean you should break the sacred vows you said before God.

2 "Mommy" stage is over. By their 40s, women no longer have leaky, milk-filled breasts for feeding babies. Hey, maybe they've even gotten their pre-baby figure back! They are feeling sexy for the first time in a while. Having brought up toddlers, they have more freedom to go out again and relax -- with their husbands, partners or someone else entirely.

Kids are grown up so ... "I've got to become a whore." Great justification, cheating trash.

3. Shifting hormones. In their 40s, women's testosterone levels are on the rise, which increases their libido, or sex drive. The so-called "nurturing" hormones -- estrogen and oxytocin -- are on the wane, making them less physically wired to attend to the needs of others and more likely to put themselves and their own needs first.

"I got horny so biology made me cheat." Men have used this excuse for years. It's a pathetic one for them. It's a pathetic one for women.

4. Bedroom boredom. Let's face it, after 20 years with the same partner, sex can become "plain vanilla." And as Christian Grey has taught us, nobody likes "plain vanilla." Sex with someone new is exciting and forbidden and provides a dopamine rush similar to a drug-induced high.

Wonderful ... use cheating as a dopamine drug addiction. Just shoot heroin. It would be more honorable.

5. Feeling neglected/unappreciated. Women wear many hats in a marriage -- housekeeper, errand-runner, grocery shopper, babysitter, cook, doctor, lover, etc. Is it any wonder that a woman is tuckered out by her 40s? If she feels more like a housekeeper or maid than a beloved and cherished wife, that's when she may stray. The fact that a husband may be spending inordinate amounts of time at work, traveling or on the golf course gives her more reason to seek attention elsewhere.

If you're feeling neglected/unappreciated, then express that you're feeling neglected or unappreciated! Find some other way to get his attention. Cheating is NEVER an option. If worse comes to worse, end the relationship and be with someone who does appreciate you. Cheating makes YOU the bad person.

6. Self-esteem booster. Sex can be an instant pick-me-up, a self-esteem booster that makes women feel sexier, more beautiful and more loved. If a woman feels unappreciated or neglected by her husband, a sexual affair could be just the medicine that she needs.

Give me a break. If you have low self esteem, see a therapist.

7. Revenge/payback for past wrongs. Whether her husband cheated, lost a job, made a bad investment or got caught in a lie, a woman feels hurt and betrayed when trust has been broken. She may want to do the same to get even.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

8. Financial woes. Many families today are experiencing financial troubles, which puts a huge strain on a marriage. Women in their 40s feel that they have put in many years of hard labor -- giving birth, raising kids and often working outside the house at the same time. When their husbands are without jobs or decent paychecks, women feel that their husbands are not fulfilling their end of the bargain and become angry and resentful.

Ah-hah. Get short on money, just go out and **** someone who's not your husband. That will help your financial problems. Well, maybe it will if you take money for it. Then at least you'll be admitting you're the WHORE that you are.

9. Letting the bad girl out. Have you noticed how many women get a breast augmentation, liposuction or other plastic surgery after their childbearing years to enhance their looks and sexuality? If not, take another look. Just as men feel the need to sow their wild oats, some women have an inner sex kitten that -- especially with rising testosterone levels -- is just waiting to come out!

*barf bag* Let the bad girl out with your HUSBAND. Try some leather, try some chains, try some spanking with your HUSBAND!

10. Exit strategy. Instead of breaking up, it's easier to cheat. An affair is an easy way out, or at least that's how some women see it.

Um ... no. If you're that unhappy, the correct order is 1. break up or divorce 2. sleep with someone else.
If you don't have the courage to break up, that's pathetic.

Originally Posted by Luna Tick

This should be titled, "10 Pathetic Excuses Some Women Choose to be Disgusting Evil Cheating Trash." I've posted articles before about trashy cheating cad men who should be shot. Here's one about women. In case you haven't noticed, I have zero sympathy for anyone, man or woman, who cheats.

Full Article:
Samantha Parent Walravens: Women In Their 40s Are Having Great Sex... Just Not With Their Husbands

The excuses and my comments.



Great. If you have greater confidence sign up and run a race, run for office, go for a promotion. More confidence does not mean you should break the sacred vows you said before God.



Kids are grown up so ... "I've got to become a whore." Great justification, cheating trash.



"I got horny so biology made me cheat." Men have used this excuse for years. It's a pathetic one for them. It's a pathetic one for women.



Wonderful ... use cheating as a dopamine drug addiction. Just shoot heroin. It would be more honorable.



If you're feeling neglected/unappreciated, then express that you're feeling neglected or unappreciated! Find some other way to get his attention. Cheating is NEVER an option. If worse comes to worse, end the relationship and be with someone who does appreciate you. Cheating makes YOU the bad person.



Give me a break. If you have low self esteem, see a therapist.



Two wrongs don't make a right.



Ah-hah. Get short on money, just go out and **** someone who's not your husband. That will help your financial problems. Well, maybe it will if you take money for it. Then at least you'll be admitting you're the WHORE that you are.



*barf bag* Let the bad girl out with your HUSBAND. Try some leather, try some chains, try some spanking with your HUSBAND!



Um ... no. If you're that unhappy, the correct order is 1. break up or divorce 2. sleep with someone else.
If you don't have the courage to break up, that's pathetic.

I'm putting my money on "Most women cheat by accident." I think very few women actually set out to cheat. The people I've known who cheated (including my dad) met their partners at work. Some people (men and women) can't resist that "new love" feeling, though. They're serial cheaters, unfortunately. Kick 'em to the curb.

Originally Posted by MaggieD

I'm putting my money on "Most women cheat by accident." I think very few women actually set out to cheat. The people I've known who cheated (including my dad) met their partners at work. Some people (men and women) can't resist that "new love" feeling, though. They're serial cheaters, unfortunately. Kick 'em to the curb.

Characterizing someone's behavior as "cheating by accident" is like saying someone got laid by accident - like they accidentally slipped and fell into a woman's vagina (or onto a dick).

Originally Posted by MaggieD

I'm putting my money on "Most women cheat by accident." I think very few women actually set out to cheat. The people I've known who cheated (including my dad) met their partners at work. Some people (men and women) can't resist that "new love" feeling, though. They're serial cheaters, unfortunately. Kick 'em to the curb.

Sorry to hear your dad cheated. Ouch. So did mine. I wish my mom had taken a fully automomatic AK 47 and emptied a 30-round magazine into his guts. She did give him a good forehand slap across the face. That seems to pale in comparison. Of course, with 30 bullet holes in his body, selling self defense to the jury might have been a little tough, so maybe the slap was better.

I'm never going to accidentally cheat. I don't accept that as an excuse.

And this is the reason I don't like people. They try to excuse crappy behavior with crappier excuses.

Originally Posted by StillBallin75

Characterizing someone's behavior as "cheating by accident" is like saying someone got laid by accident - like they accidentally slipped and fell into a woman's vagina (or onto a dick).

Multiple times.

I'm the 11th reason women cheat.

maybe to find the love.

I agree, there are no excuses for cheating.

If you don't like the "contract" you have with your partner, try to change it in a consensus. (Sure, such an attempt can cause trouble too, but still better than breaking a promise).

There is much you can do: Why not sign on a "we stay together, but both look for a little fun outside of our bedroom", or going to a swingers club together -- if you really think that's necessary for your sex life.

Of course it's better when people live up to the ideal of a lifelong faithful marriage, but apparently, that's too hard for many people. So maybe this expectation is too high and the model should be changed -- but not by cheating and lying. Better find a new model in a consensus, for that mutual trust and possible children do not suffer.

Originally Posted by Luna Tick

This should be titled, "10 Pathetic Excuses Some Women Choose to be Disgusting Evil Cheating Trash." I've posted articles before about trashy cheating cad men who should be shot. Here's one about women. In case you haven't noticed, I have zero sympathy for anyone, man or woman, who cheats.

I do have sympathy for some of them, because they're pretty messed up psychologically and emotionally, which is a special hell of its own.