You're young, so you think those older than you have some kind of method or pattern that we have figured out and practice whenever we want to do this stuff.
Here's the trick: We haven't.
Rather, we've learned not to give a **** about such things because of the risk v. reward.
Let's break down the options:
1) You talk to her and you hit it off and go out on a date and you start up a more involved friendship with her. You get what you want.
2) You talk to her and you hit it off and go out on a date but one or both of you realize that chemistry isn't there. Oh well, at least you tried and nothing ventured nothing gained.
3) You talk to her and she thinks you're a weirdo. Her body language and other signs signal that she's not interested in even going out with you. Oh well - this girl that you know for sure doesn't want to talk to you thinks you're a weirdo. So now you two won't talk and your lives will diverge and you will both go about your merry way.
4) You don't try. Sure, she doesn't think you're a weirdo, but she also doesn't think of you at all anyways now.
So if she doesn't think of you at all now, why do you care if she will think of you as a weirdo, especially when if she thinks of you as a weirdo you two won't talk to each other anyways because of it?
That, there is the key. Sure, some people may think of you as a weirdo or whatever some time. But there will always be someone who will think something negative about you. And that includes people who care about you. And that includes people you will care about.
And you know what?
So. ****ing. What?
Be yourself, live your life, and haters gonna hate. That's the way it is. Don't let it stop you.
Another key, though, is to be accepting and respectful of her if she says no thanks. If she says no thanks, just smile at her anyways and tell her that you hope she has a nice night. And be sincere about it too. Hope that, even though she's not interested, that she has a nice night. After all just because she's not interested in a date isn't enough to hope she doesn't have a nice night.
And don't get bummed about it either. There's no reason too.
There's 6 billion people on this people. Half of them are women. You've got 2,999,999,999 more women in the world to check out. Statistics are in your favor that one of them are going to want to go on a date with you.
So don't sweat it.
Also, we need to legalize recreational drugs and prostitution.
Nah. Coffee is pretty harmless. Especially if he asks her during their lunch break if they get it at the same time.
If someone were trying to catch my eye and I kept glancing away, that should be a clue to him. If I kept trying to catch some guys eye and he always glanced away, that would be a clue to me. I would give it up. But that's me.
If this guy is determined and wants to ignore the subtle signs she has given off, then keeping it simple will confirm it she isn't interested...or maybe she has a boyfriend already. One way to find out. Smile, introduce himself, ask to join him for coffee. Simple.
Since you're into the OWS thing.... you go up to her and say....
“You must be Wall Street, ’cause I’d sure like to occupy you.”
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