Thread: Dating someone who goes away for a month[w:76]

Originally Posted by Risky Thicket

Ten bucks says she's boffing the band...

If we had some real way of checking, I'd take the bet.
I just don't see that working out professionally.

Originally Posted by Thunder

...I don't know if I can handle them going away for such a long period of time soo frequently.

Well, we sure as hell don't know either.

But, until you git hitched, you can end it most whenever you like. So, you don't actually have to make a decision at the moment other than if you want to make a decision at the moment.

There's plenty of time to burn bridges once you get to them.
If it ain't broke, why're you jiggling the handle so much?

Originally Posted by Thunder

just talked to her on Skype. I guess my first email didn't freak her out, but I made sure she understood...that my second email really is the truth.

we really don't know each other. there is SOOOO very much she doesn't know about me..and Im sure there is a buttload I don't know about her. I told her, that if she wants to get to know the true me...here I am. But if not..its ok.

what will her email say? Im expecting somethign sweet & kind, but likely something to the extent of "your great, but I don't think we want the same things" or "I really do think im gonna move to Canada soon..and I dont want to string you along".

what if she says she is willing to get to know me more? i dont know. i really dont. Im not even sure if its what I want her to say.

yeah, Im a nut.

If she does want to get to know you better....whatever you do do not send her here to read your posts. She will know more about you than she ever wanted to know...

Originally Posted by Connery

If she does want to get to know you better....whatever you do do not send her here to read your posts. She will know more about you than she ever wanted to know...

Especially his posts in a place of which we usually do not speak upstairs. If he really wants her to know who he is, that's where he should send her. I bet he especially does not want her to know that aspect of who he is.

Of course, if the relationship progresses very far, these are things she'll find out about him one way or another, even if she doesn't read them there.

Originally Posted by Bob Blaylock

Especially his posts in a place of which we usually do not speak upstairs. If he really wants her to know who he is, that's where he should send her. I bet he especially does not want her to know that aspect of who he is.

I don't encourage my wife to read this board.
[I would have to threaten her with the end of the world while promising her the moon to get her to even consider it, but that's beside the point]
I like having some "places" in my life where I don't have to be Dad, or husband, or son, or brother, or anything else.
If my wife got involved here, this wouldn't be one of those spaces any more.

Originally Posted by Connery

If she does want to get to know you better....whatever you do do not send her here to read your posts. She will know more about you than she ever wanted to know...

Originally Posted by Bob Blaylock

Especially his posts in a place of which we usually do not speak upstairs. If he really wants her to know who he is, that's where he should send her. I bet he especially does not want her to know that aspect of who he is.

Of course, if the relationship progresses very far, these are things she'll find out about him one way or another, even if she doesn't read them there.

Moderator's Warning:

Knock it off guys or you will be removed from the thread.

Originally Posted by Redress

Moderator's Warning:

Knock it off guys or you will be removed from the thread.

That was not meant as a sarcastic remark or some type of dig. That is sage advice. Indeed, another poster has suggested as much, "I don't encourage my wife to read this board." I do not tell anyone that I know about DP as I enjoy my anonymity as well. Naturally, I will heed your warning, yet, I assure you that your interpretation of my statement is taken out of context, therefore unwarranted. Further, if you look at other issues this poster had brought up I have always treated him and his issues with the utmost care, respect and dignity.

Originally Posted by Simon W. Moon

I don't encourage my wife to read this board.
[I would have to threaten her with the end of the world while promising her the moon to get her to even consider it, but that's beside the point]
I like having some "places" in my life where I don't have to be Dad, or husband, or son, or brother, or anything else.
If my wife got involved here, this wouldn't be one of those spaces any more.

Ditto. Although the person you see me as here is the real me, I can also be quite the opposite. No way would I ever let real life friends or spouse or family read here. NO. WAY.

anyways, when she gets back to NY...my plan is to sit her down...have some tea, and we are gonna get to know each other.

...and we shall see if we are truly good for one another. I should have startd this months ago, but I was afraid to..as she seems to want it light. But its time for me to get to know the real her, and vice-versa. This should be interesting.

Originally Posted by Thunder

anyways, when she gets back to NY...my plan is to sit her down...have some tea, and we are gonna get to know each other.

...and we shall see if we are truly good for one another. I should have startd this months ago, but I was afraid to..as she seems to want it light. But its time for me to get to know the real her, and vice-versa. This should be interesting.

really?
and what does she want? or is that unimportant?