Why? Is she not also a citizen? Is she not an American whose family has paid a dear price for this abortion of a military expedition?
It's not that. Every citizen has a right to voice their opinion - she has a right to have an opinion, sure. Just like everyone else.
There's a very fine, delicate line in which family, friends and even spouses shouldn't cross and that is the line of command.
Take away the military-aspect of it and look at it generally as if it was any other job.
Does any parent, friend or other family member, even spouse, have any right to question your boss or other superior when it comes to the conditions of your work-place?
Generally, no.
To you, yes - but directly to
them, no.
So this situation, however touching and understandable, crosses that line.
The military might be a life-and-death and reality changing career path, but aside it's nitty gritty on the battlefied it is also a regular job. Parents shouldn't step into it, hoping that their emotions or personal situations be taken into account. Even more so when considering things on such a large, international and complicated scale.
My husband's in it - and I voice my opinions about what I feel we should do and so on in an online area. However, I don't announce who I am and put my name with his face in any way. He's in the media sometimes and I am not and I never will be.
I would never violate my husband's own line of command and so forth just to voice my opinion to a higher up of his. That is not my place. in fact, that can complicate his career in the military to the point where his work-environment becomes affected by it.
No parent or spouse has that right. Giving support to your loved one or even protesting something that you don't agree with does not mean you should get up to a podium and demand action on behalf of your grown child.
Interference and complaints directly TO command FROM parents and spouses happens all the time - in all sorts of situations. It is unacceptable. Everything from demanding the return of your son from his station of duty to asking that your daughter be given leave to celebrate mother's day. None of it is acceptable.
The thought that "this is a war, his life is at stake" and that makes it ok for anyone to take such extreme measures is understandable, but out of place.
If any parent or friend, etc, whats to be involved in protesting a war or demanding action they can do it annonymously, even publicly - but they should take care to respect the chain of command. I would *at least* hope that they consider the problems it might cause for the person who is deployed.