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Is reading your wife’s e-mail a crime?

Should reading your wife's e-mail be a crime?

  • yes

    Votes: 5 25.0%
  • no

    Votes: 13 65.0%
  • other

    Votes: 2 10.0%

  • Total voters
    20
I have found that the people who are usually the most jealous/untrusting are themselves untrustworthy or cheaters

This is so true. My ex was always a jealous ass. And yet, I never cheated on him. No reason to...I was thoroughly in love with the guy.
 
What if you aren't trustworthy?

I think I am trustworthy... but my boyfriend hasn't done this to me. You wouldn't feel insulted if your husband or boyfriend did it to you, without reason?
 
This is so true. My ex was always a jealous ass. And yet, I never cheated on him. No reason to...I was thoroughly in love with the guy.

I agree with him too, but I really like my boyfriend right now like you liked him. I wouldn't call it love right now, but I really like him and wouldn't cheat... so if he assumes I am cheating all the time, I'd be concerned. I would think it was the first symptoms of a major control freak with trust issues..
 
I think I am trustworthy... but my boyfriend hasn't done this to me. You wouldn't feel insulted if your husband or boyfriend did it to you, without reason?

I haven't ever had anything to hide, and it would be relatively easy for my boyfriend to guess my password.
 
I agree with him too, but I really like my boyfriend right now like you liked him. I wouldn't call it love right now, but I really like him and wouldn't cheat... so if he assumes I am cheating all the time, I'd be concerned. I would think it was the first symptoms of a major control freak with trust issues..

On the other hand, I wonder what percentage of people who suspect cheating find out that their spouse actually is cheating. I think if you suspect it, the odds are good that they are, though I didn't really suspect until he left his e-mail open with his "Adult Friend Finder" profile information in it.
 
This guy is the woman's third husband, and she was cheating with her second husband, who was abusive. She and #3 had a child, so husband #3 was worried and concerned she might take the kid there, and well I guess, witness possible abusiveness. Kind of a mixed up mess, but I think #3 was justified in snooping whether it's legal or not. As far as this being a felony, that to me is nonsense. If you communicate in such a public manner as the internet, it's your own fault if you get caught doing things you shouldn't be doing. This guy obviously married a psycho, two-timing bitch who had no concern for anyone but herself. It's a shame he told how he found out she was cheating. He should have said he just guessed it.
 
This guy is the woman's third husband, and she was cheating with her second husband, who was abusive. She and #3 had a child, so husband #3 was worried and concerned she might take the kid there, and well I guess, witness possible abusiveness. Kind of a mixed up mess, but I think #3 was justified in snooping whether it's legal or not. As far as this being a felony, that to me is nonsense. If you communicate in such a public manner as the internet, it's your own fault if you get caught doing things you shouldn't be doing. This guy obviously married a psycho, two-timing bitch who had no concern for anyone but herself. It's a shame he told how he found out she was cheating. He should have said he just guessed it.

actually, the child belonged to #1, that is who #3 forwarded the emails to. obviously this chick is a prime time dirtbag.
 
I guess I would probably look through my boyfriend's stuff if I thought he was lying and cheating... I wouldn't do it just to keep tabs on him though. I'd have to have suspicion, because knowing the truth is sometimes better than not knowing. It's also easier on you to break up and know you are doing it for the right reasons, not because you feel paranoid.

Luckily I have never experienced a really bad relationship with a real dirtbag. :)
 
Or maybe, just maybe, jealous / untrusting people have been burned badly in the past...

Some people should be put in the zoo...




... like on the Twilight Zone episode

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Or maybe, just maybe, jealous / untrusting people have been burned badly in the past...

I had a situation alluded to previously in the thread that left some pretty significant scorch marks. I may be a little more jaded of an individual today because of it, but I still trust the woman I married implicitly. Suspicious people generally become that way because their own behavior leads them to believe that everyone else operates in the same clandestine fashion that they do.
 
This guy is the woman's third husband, and she was cheating with her second husband, who was abusive. She and #3 had a child, so husband #3 was worried and concerned she might take the kid there, and well I guess, witness possible abusiveness. Kind of a mixed up mess, but I think #3 was justified in snooping whether it's legal or not. As far as this being a felony, that to me is nonsense. If you communicate in such a public manner as the internet, it's your own fault if you get caught doing things you shouldn't be doing. This guy obviously married a psycho, two-timing bitch who had no concern for anyone but herself. It's a shame he told how he found out she was cheating. He should have said he just guessed it.

Let me get this straight, she was cheating with an ex? Does that count as cheating? :lol:
 
Let me get this straight, she was cheating with an ex? Does that count as cheating? :lol:

Yes, an abusive ex at that. Woman must have issues. From appearances her 3rd hubby is a fine, upstanding man.
 
He shouldn't have been going through his wife's e-mail, but in my opinion this should be more of a moral problem than a criminal problem. In other words, he was in the wrong, but he shouldn't go to jail or go to court over something so stupid.

The case is stupid. Hopefully it will be dismissed. Should the man have read his wife's email? No because she is entitled to her own privacy. Should he go to jail for it? NO.
 
Is reading your wife's email a crime? Depends. If you read an email from her lover, and you go out and shoot him, then yes. It is a crime. I hope this helps you. :mrgreen:
 
I had a situation alluded to previously in the thread that left some pretty significant scorch marks. I may be a little more jaded of an individual today because of it, but I still trust the woman I married implicitly. Suspicious people generally become that way because their own behavior leads them to believe that everyone else operates in the same clandestine fashion that they do.

You have a point, but having been through this sort of crap before I have a policy: Trust is earned. I apply that to everyone, not just Significant Others.

OTOH I don't run around being paranoid and hiring PI's. If something comes up that makes me think there is a REASON to suspect infidelity, then I will snoop... otherwise no, I don't bother. They usually give themselves away if you know the signs, anyway.
 
You have a point, but having been through this sort of crap before I have a policy: Trust is earned. I apply that to everyone, not just Significant Others.

OTOH I don't run around being paranoid and hiring PI's. If something comes up that makes me think there is a REASON to suspect infidelity, then I will snoop... otherwise no, I don't bother. They usually give themselves away if you know the signs, anyway.

Exactly. I didn't mean to imply that I trust anyone at first glance, just that my wife was someone who "passed muster" before I even decided to give her a ring. ;) Basically, yes, I've been burned in the past and that does affect my judgement of character now, but it doesn't mean that I'm incapable of trusting anyone.

Generally, I give people enough rope to either tie down my trust or hang themselves, based on their actions.
 
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