WTF are you talking about?The caller in this incident is in a situation where that applies, just as I have seen you break down when someone pushed your buttons, and on an anonymous forum, no less, which is a whole lot less than one's own home with her husband's friends.
I dunno, Liblady. I think if the black population wants people to stop using the n word, they should stop using it themselves. That was Dr L's point. If I went around to my Italian family/friends saying, "Yo Ginny!" or "Wassup Wop?" I would imagine those words wouldn't retire anytime soon. I just don't hear that in the Italian culture. Heaven forbid anyone bring up the M word. Everyone just scatters.
As for me, I will just maintain that I am a poor human muggle without such illustrious mind-reading powers, Dumbledore.