I think the issue lies in the stupidity of calling things like 'having a family' a 'value'. Values to me are 'integrity', 'honor', 'responsibility'. Having a traditional family is not a value anymore than owning a car is. It's a tradition. Something most people today are choosing to avoid for whatever reason. I'm not going to raise my kid to believe she has to have a family just like mine. I'm going to teach her to treat whatever she has the way I've treated mine in terms of providing for them, taking care of them when they need anything. Having a husband and two bratty kids? Far down the list on 'values' I want her to have.