One thing I've noticed is that guys in fields like law enforcement and the military often have the least traditional views in this regard, because they're used to working side by side with women in their field, and seeing women perform the same work. It's odd, but the more masculine the work is, the less insecure they seem to be about female equality.
I've noticed this in the guys that I work with (and my boyfriend is military). it doesn't hold true for all, but if you think about it, the military was racially integrated far before the rest of private industry was.
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Yeah, he has spent a lot of time learning about social political issues. It does take a women to see what is happening to other women, but he is interested, and does listen when women explain it. He has one friend who has taken womens feminist studies. When she found out just how much sexism there is, she couldnt stop being blazingly angry for a long time. He listened to it all. I had the same experience with the anger, as I found out more and more. Now, I tend to most of the time have a weary patience, and anger when I hear something particularly disgusting.
''...dealing with men making rude comments...''
I became allergic to sexist comments long ago. I think, once you get allergic to them, you want to puke every time you hear one.
I never cared about being treated like one of the boys, but I do and did want the freedom to live my life the way I want to live it.
If you work with a bunch of guys, you soon learn that they pick on everyone equally. Having a vagina isn't really that different from having red hair. In that environment, everyone catches some **** occasionally, you just have to learn to laugh at yourself, and then pick it up and throw it back. It's a male thing I think, it's about establishing the pecking order in the group. You just have to show them that your dick is every bit as big as theirs (even if it's invisible). I use that terminology, but what I mean is that my heart, my brain, my character is every bit as big as any guy I've ever worked with. Most of them figured that out pretty quickly.I became allergic to sexist comments long ago. I think, once you get allergic to them, you want to puke every time you hear one.
What I learned is that if you get offended at the little games, they win. You have to play the game better than they do. Then, after a while, you don't get anymore **** thrown at you. You win! They bow before your superior greatness (or at least, acknowledge that you are their equal, which is THE BEST).
Being treated like one of the boys means that my gender becomes removed from the equation. I'm evaluated on one thing, and one thing only: Can I do the job? That's all I've ever wanted, to just be judged on my merits.I never cared about being treated like one of the boys, but I do and did want the freedom to live my life the way I want to live it.
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