From walking up to the door to driving away is typically around 5 minutes or less. I hate the people my X hangs around. The totally wrong crowd. A bunch of 1%ers. I call her and let her know when I'm pulling up so that she can tell the kids I'm here. At that point it's all they can do to keep from falling over themselves to leave.
If I'm told not to enter, and then I enter anyway, that's my bad. If I invent delays, try to start fights, start braking ****, that's all on me. You have a right to defend your home. If it were my home and some armed asshole came in and started smashing the place up, I'd go for my weapon and 911. Lord help us all if that armed asshole hid a hand and started threatening to use a gun. I know what I would do, but bullets have a funny way of bouncing off of things, even bones. Not good in any situation, especially when children are present.