Well said! why don't we value parents who stay home and take care of their kids? Oftentimes they are the backbone of our volunteer force, helping at schools and other places. They are raising the future leaders of our country. They allow the breadwinner more flexibility with their employer, allows them to travel if needed and to change careers and whatnot.
In college, I was the only woman in a particular business class. We were doing a case study about a woman who had stayed home, and supported her hsuband's career by taking care of the children, moving when he got promoted, holding business dinners, etc. He was offered another promotion which required a move - and she said no. The teacher and the class were all saying "yeah, she better get her butt in gear and move, he makes all the money" (to paraphrase). I finally spoke up and pointed out she had been contributing to the family's success as much as he had, and she absolutely had earned the right to have equal input on the decision. The marriage was a partnership.
THEN the teacher realized what an a*hole he had been and he backed down. But absolutely the stay at home partner is a key part of the family and should be respected and their accomplishments considered as important.
(As to whether people should get extra help *just* because they are in the military - that's another subject. In general, yes, but to me it depends on what they did, how long they were in there, etc. And of course there are programs for people - well, ok, mainly women - re-entering the workforce offered through colleges and whatnot, so there is some support out there)