... One of the most important teaching mechanisms that kids and teens utilize in learning about appropriate behavior in romantic relationship is by observing example in their nuclear family
, an essentially unconscious
In a marriage (meaning, of course, between OS couples), the kids see the role of the man and the role of the woman in a romantic relationship. Teens grow up knowing the exemplified manner in which men treat women in romance and love and women treat men in romance and love.
This is huge.
Now, SS and OS couples each have their own set of problems, and there is no indication one type has more or less problems/dysfunctions/etc. than the other type.
So, such must be factored out.
Thus we're left with the simple distinction that the romantic example of the two types is different
, as one is SS and the other is OS, and that is absolutely huge, huge, huge in the way the romance and love is played out with respect to kids and teens observing the example of each.
So heterosexual kids and teens will benefit, will not be unconciously confused, by their heterosexual parents' romantic relationship .. where they would be unconsciously compromised and likely to a dysfunctional degree in their own romantic relationships as a result by observing their parents' romantic relationship if their parents were a SS couple.
Likewise, homosexual kids and teens will beneift, wil not be unconsciously confused, by their homosexual parents' romantic relationship when all are of the same sex, both parents and kids, .. where they would be unconsciously compromised and likely to a dysfunctional degree in their own romantic relationships as a result by observing their parents' romantic relationship if their parents were an OS couple or their parents were an SS couple of a sex different from their kids.
We pretty much know now that homosexuality and heterosexuality is not a genetic result, meaning that if a homosexual woman conceives she's not more likely to produce a homosexual child than a heterosexual woman would.
We also know that the psychology of gender attraction is determined during gestation, and that once the appropriate physiological and neuropsychological hormonal blasts have occurred prior to birth, the nature and strength of sexuality is pretty much a done deal.
What these two pieces of knowledge tell us is that we simply cannot yet predict if a person is homosexual or heterosexual until long after birth, often not until pre-teen or teen age.
What we do know, however, is that roughly 88% of the population is heterosexual, 10% of the population is bisexual, and 2% of the population is homosexual, the 2% being those most likely to want to form a SS committed romantic monogamous relationship.
Thus 10% of kids will be at least somewhat challenged adversely by their parents' role-modeling no matter what their parents' orientation, SS or OS.
And 2% of kids will be challenged adversely by their parents' role-modeling if their parents are an OS couple.
But a whopping 88% of kids and teens will be challenged adversely by their parents' role-modeling (89% when factoring in the different sex of SS kids and their SS parents), and to a likely dysfunctional degree in their own romantic relationships, if their parents are an SS couple.
That reality -- and yes, like it or not, that is
reality -- is the only rational argument against SS couples adopting a kid or teen when that potential adoptee's sexual orientation is not known.
Since we have yet to discover how to determine in very young children their true sexual orientation for a scientific litmus-test certainty, we don't know if a SS couple is about to adopt a SS person or an OS person .. but the odds
tell us there's a huge 88% chance the adoptee will be an OS person.
Thus with OS couples adopting, the odds are sufficiently high that they will get a child who will receive paramount important proper romantic relationship role-modeling from them.
And with SS couples adopting -- or using artificial insemination to conceive and bare a child in the case of female SS couples -- the odds are sufficiently high that they will get a child who will receive paramount important improper and thus dysfunction-creating romantic relationship role-modeling from them.
Because of the terrible damage improper dysfunction-creating role-modeling in this romantic relationship fashion creates, it is highly recommended that SS couples do not
have children by any means.
Currently, "marriage" allows children.
Thus another reason why SS couples should not be allowed to marry.
A young OS girl needs to see her mom related with a man (her dad or step-dad) if she is to learn unconsciously appropriate gender roles in romance.
And a young SS boy needs to see his two dads (or dad and step-dad) relate with each other romantically if he is to learn unconsciously appropriate gender roles in romance.
The damage improper role-modeling of this nature does to kids can be catastrophic in their own subsequent romantic relationships.
I mean, an OS boy observing the excess physicality of his two dads in relationship will be in for a painfully hurt and rejected shock when he tries the same with his girl