The controversy over this incident reminds me of something that annoys me. In general, I hate the back and forth of people wanting to exploit their differences if and only if it is in their favor. Pick one side and accept the pros and cons of that side. I believe this is a major cause for the decline in gentlemen and true ladies. If you want to be treated like a lady then act like one. If you want to be treated the same as men then don't cry "but I'm a female" in situations like this.