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"The crisis will end when fear changes sides" - Pablo Iglesias Turrión
"Austerity is used as a cover to reconfigure society and increase inequality and injustice." - Jeremy Corbyn
I was 14 when I was bullied, and if I had had to cope with it at night, if it had been amplified by the net, if I could not escape it by changing schools......who knows? Frankly, I had suicidal ideas even with just the way things were.
I was a foster child and had no adult to protect me. There are millions of kids now like me, and even those with good parents cannot look to them to "make it stop", as no one can control the net. You think "O, I'll homeschool", and expect that will work. Well, even if you can quit your job and perform well as a teacher for your child, that will not keep the net and people with net access out of his life -- and so, your kid will be in almost as much pain as before.
When this is one kid bullying another, with no threats of violence, I say let the schools and parents handle it. But when it's an adult bullying a child, or a gang of kids doing it, I say we need to criminalize these behaviors and start furnishing bullying victims with JUSTICE.
Bullying should be treated very harshly by schools and authorities. It also should be addressed civilly. If a parent should have pay MILLIONS of dollars for their kid downloading pirated music, should parents be liable for the children using a computer to threaten and bully others.
WHAT NEEDS TO HAPPEN is that internet companies should have the SAME civil liabilities and any other publication medium. The bizarre exemption allows anyone to anonymously post any liable, slander and threats against anyone without even a way to force that material to be removed. This is SO extreme, that is someone hide a video camera in your house making a totally illegal video of you having sex, there are websites they could annoymously put it on, email links to everyone you know they could find, and it would be essentially impossible to have the video removed or even find out who did it.
I agree. Someone needs to hold bullies responsible for their actions. I was also a foster child in a similar situation and know I barely survived. I actually thought the pain would kill me if I didn't kill myself first. And sometimes dying may be a natural reaction to what someone is going through.
That said, these social networking sites that allow kids on -- facebook will allow a kid as young as 13 to join -- in my mind owe a duty to the children they attract, to protect them. We all know they don't -- none of the major social networking sites will ban a member for harrassment. The owners of these companies need to feel it in the pocketbook when they design staffing and coding plans that create an unreasonable risk.
But for me, the bottom line is, these predatory adults should be sent to prison.
I ran away 11 times in 4 years; once to avoiding bullying at school, 10 times to escape a foster father who wanted to commit all manner of sex crimes on me. It's a nine days' wonder I wasn't harmed whilst on the street; I'd usually stay away 3 or 4 days, and I spent those nights between parked cars, to stay warm. As problem-solving techniques go, running away from home sucks, but it did work -- I made it to 18 with a HS diploma and no one had harmed me.
Now, sad as all that is, obviously the average kid is not in foster care. BUT -- you parents need to realize that you cannot control what is said to your child or about your child on the net, and that without support for new criminal laws, people with bad intentions can do almost anything they want to YOUR kid.
I think it's almost like murder: if the kid is very young and the abuse is unrelenting, it's entirely possible to watch that kid disappear. One foster father I had was abusing his own bio 4 year old daughter, who in turn was constantly trying to murder her 2 year old brother. I told the social worker -- but believing me was out of the question. I think about those kids a lot, even now.
Like the victims of the sex abuse by nuns I lived with in the orphanage, I'd be shocked to learn they had survived even to age 18.
I can marshal enough rage to light up NYC if I dwell on this, and remaining passive in the face of a new threat to kids is completely out of the question for me.