What does that mean?
I was 14 when I was bullied, and if I had had to cope with it at night, if it had been amplified by the net, if I could not escape it by changing schools......who knows? Frankly, I had suicidal ideas even with just the way things were.
I was a foster child and had no adult to protect me. There are millions of kids now like me, and even those with good parents cannot look to them to "make it stop", as no one can control the net. You think "O, I'll homeschool", and expect that will work. Well, even if you can quit your job and perform well as a teacher for your child, that will not keep the net and people with net access out of his life -- and so, your kid will be in almost as much pain as before.
When this is one kid bullying another, with no threats of violence, I say let the schools and parents handle it. But when it's an adult bullying a child, or a gang of kids doing it, I say we need to criminalize these behaviors and start furnishing bullying victims with JUSTICE.
Right on target, Anda. Whatever she did, she did as a result of her turmoil. Here's a fun fact. Many rape/molestation survivors become extremely promiscuous after their rape/molestation. Why? Logic would seem to dictate that after such an act, one would avoid sexual contact... and many do. Both, what others "learned" from their experience is that their bodies were not theirs and were not worth protecting. This was all they were worth, so they keep doing it. OR, they have lots of sex in order to psychologically reestablish control over the act, a way to prove to themselves that a trauma like that could not happen again.
This is why anyone who presented this girls promiscuity as part of her responsibility in what happened has no knowledge of mental illness.
I was 14 when I was bullied, and if I had had to cope with it at night, if it had been amplified by the net, if I could not escape it by changing schools......who knows? Frankly, I had suicidal ideas even with just the way things were.
I was a foster child and had no adult to protect me. There are millions of kids now like me, and even those with good parents cannot look to them to "make it stop", as no one can control the net. You think "O, I'll homeschool", and expect that will work. Well, even if you can quit your job and perform well as a teacher for your child, that will not keep the net and people with net access out of his life -- and so, your kid will be in almost as much pain as before.
When this is one kid bullying another, with no threats of violence, I say let the schools and parents handle it. But when it's an adult bullying a child, or a gang of kids doing it, I say we need to criminalize these behaviors and start furnishing bullying victims with JUSTICE.
Glad you made it thru it, Pinkie. Bullying can terrify and crush adolescents and young teens in very real and psychological ways. It also can be so embarassing they can't tell anyone or have no one to really tell who would or could do anything about. Whether or not foster parents, natural or adoptive, millions and millions of children do not have attentive parents and even with perfect parents there is only so much a parent can do anyway.
Bullying should be treated very harshly by schools and authorities. It also should be addressed civilly. If a parent should have pay MILLIONS of dollars for their kid downloading pirated music, should parents be liable for the children using a computer to threaten and bully others.
WHAT NEEDS TO HAPPEN is that internet companies should have the SAME civil liabilities and any other publication medium. The bizarre exemption allows anyone to anonymously post any liable, slander and threats against anyone without even a way to force that material to be removed. This is SO extreme, that is someone hide a video camera in your house making a totally illegal video of you having sex, there are websites they could annoymously put it on, email links to everyone you know they could find, and it would be essentially impossible to have the video removed or even find out who did it.
I agree. Someone needs to hold bullies responsible for their actions. I was also a foster child in a similar situation and know I barely survived. I actually thought the pain would kill me if I didn't kill myself first. And sometimes dying may be a natural reaction to what someone is going through.
I actually have some personal experience with this phenomenon. When I was in my early 20's, I dated a fetish model for a few months. She was extremely open to sex with numerous people (male and female) and of course the nature of her work was inherently sexual. She had also been raised in a religious cult (literally) and had been repeatedly raped by several of the men in charge of the organization over a period of several years (when she was between the ages of 12-15; after that she ran away). It was pretty clear to me even then that she was interested in the sorts of things she was interested in - and did the sort of work that she did - as a direct outgrowth of years of systematic abuse. Obviously that's not true of all sex workers (I've known a few who really don't fit that mold at all), but in her case, it was a textbook example of what you're talking about here.
Were you a foster child in Ohio? I ask because I was and some of your stories preach to the choir. My foatster mom would have us stand with our knees locked and hands on our ankles in a stretching position.I stood there.for 5 hours once, but moving would've been much worse. I did the same thing, ran away again and again, knowing Id escape to a new type of hell each time. I'm wondering if Ohios foster system needs a good looking at.
Uhh...I was 14 when I was bullied, and if I had had to cope with it at night, if it had been amplified by the net, if I could not escape it by changing schools......who knows? Frankly, I had suicidal ideas even with just the way things were.
Uhh...
There is this little thing called "Delete Account" in facebook.
One can escape it if they want to.
Yeah I think the safest I ever was, was in a mental health facility acting as my "group home" until a foster home opened up. The rules were unfair a bit because I was there for running away not behavioral issues like most of the other kids, but I wasn't starved, beaten, or raped.
I really hate any locked down setting for kids -- the community has to see the kids every day in order for them to be safe. Just like nursing homes, any institutional setting that houses kids will have a helluva time keeping sadists off the payroll
That said, almost anything would be better than paying Betty the Boozer $24,000 a year to abuse a foster child.
And people wonder why the world is so messed up. It seems you and I have turned out fine considering our circumstances, but how many millions of kids are in the system today that will emancipate out to a life of crime and poverty. I know most of my foster sisters didn't graduate high school, much less college, and most either have kids by multiple fathers or a criminal record now.For our kids being the future there isn't alot of real concern as to their well being.
Honestly? No. I take that back. Possible but very very unlikely. Its much more likely there is an underlying stability issue. We have all had ups and down and even contimplated it half heartedly. But when you start to take action, there is most likely a chemical imbalance, or a mental disorder at the heart of it I believe. Its one of the reasons I want better statistics so I can drill down and determine if that is in fact as I suspect it is.
Man, this has really gotten heated. So it seems some would protect verbal abuse as freedom of speech. Ever hear of harassment? I can't follow you around all day, yelling at you, saying means things, or threatening you, even if you are in public space. It's called harassment, and rightly so, it's illegal.
Uhhh...yeah. That's harassment.
Why make bullying a new crime?
kind of agree here. Bullying in itself is realisticallly a systematic harassment/torture system which engages in multiple criminal activities. For instance, physical bullies engage in assault, battery, extortion, and other variants of those physical abuse statues. Mental abusers engage in but not limited to' extortion, blackmail, harassement, voyeurism, (in this case, child porn), statutory sex offenses, (civil) willful mental anguish, etc.Uhhh...yeah. That's harassment.
Why make bullying a new crime?
Malicious intent is the key word. If an adult willfully engages in behaviors that endanger a child's well being they can be charged accordingly, including negligence, physical abuse, mental abuse, or indifference. All crimes in the 50 states punishable by law.An excellent question.
The answer is, in every case we have discussed, the law does not now exist that would permit a prosecution, except that we could charge the 9 year who took a photo of her naked classmate with child pornography.
Stalking, harrassment, terroristic threats, etc. -- these laws do sometimes get used to prosecute cyber-bullying, but they are most useful on the least dangerous types: peer to peer bullying. Law enforcement and criminal justice need another tool in the tool bag to get the adults who target children on the net -- something that criminalizes speech they know is directed at a child and is reasonably foreseeably creating a risk of grave harm to the child.
Malicious intent is the key word. If an adult willfully engages in behaviors that endanger a child's well being they can be charged accordingly, including negligence, physical abuse, mental abuse, or indifference. All crimes in the 50 states punishable by law.
I dunno, to me internet speech is still speech. The things done to this particular girl are not protected, any judge that would differentiate internet publication from say, running an ad with the girl's breasts and personal information is a moron. So far we have child porn, harassment, defamation, and seemingly extortion, I don't know how an extra law puts any more weight on existing ones but am willing to hear what more we can do.No, not as we sit here today. Not if the adult uses the internet to torture the child -- but that's the law I want.
What we call the crime, how severely we punish it, that's something I'd be very flexible about, because I think if Lori Drew had had to do even 6 months in the city jail, the deterrent on other adults would be significant.