That sucks. Sorry. Good for you though... a healthy secure person would leave in that situation and just move on.
No idea what the Notebook was though... but it looks good. I like Rachel McAdams enough to watch it.
We have been separated for just over three years now as well. We were married for 9 years and have two daughters. She has Borderline Personality Disorder, so life for me was HELL. I never realized the signs until we were into our 4th year and had our kids already. I worked my ass off trying everything I could think of. I was never her husband, I was her therapist instead. She projected all her issues onto me and then justified her cheating on me since I was supposedly psychologically and verbally abusing her, when it was the other way around, as our friends and family can attest. My mom freaked when she saw what I was going through. We talked of separating and she took that to mean she could sleep with guys, so she did. In the first two years since we separated, she had 4 serious boy friends, three of which were to move in with her, and two of which she told me they were discussing having a baby. She is currently in another long distance relationship with another guy she is talking about marrying. My girls mix up the guys names sometimes and consequently, I have not even considered going on a date, much less get in a relationship. They need to see a sane parent that is secure with who they are.
Anyway...