Why would that be "first of all?" Before 9/11, nobody in America gave Islam a second thought. Of course, before 9/11 Islamic terrorists and zealots had been targetting the West (especially America) since the 1950s. Weren't we designated as the enemy of Islam by Sayyid Qutb before we even supported Israel? Weren't our troops murdered in Beirut while obeying ROEs that did not permit the inherent right to self defense in the 1980s? Wasn't it American soldiers, sailors, airmen, and Marines that were murdered throughout the 1990s while most of America ignored it?
Oh, but after 9/11 we should "first accept" that we in the West have a problem with Islam? That'll fix it all right up. You do realize that no amount of Islamic ass kissing will make them change their minds about you, right? You are the Islamic zealot's enemy no matter what you do.
By the way, we already have the solution. Muslims throughout the region are finally doing it before your very eyes.