A friend of mine had a daughter.
I guess she was 15 when I asked her about her dating. She said she wasn't allowed to yet.
I then asked her about getting pregnant, in the future. She said matter of factly that it wouldn't happen because her father would kill her. She was right.
I didn't sense fear in that answer though, more like respect. He kept her in line and she turned out very well. Successful.
My friend has three very cute/ pretty daughters. It's difficult not to comment on that too much, but I know it's the wrong thing to do. So whenever I first see them I make a point to ask two of them about school, grades, activities. The little one, I ask about cartoons or something like that. Of course later, I can't resist commenting on how cute they look if they're wearing something new, or if their hair looks extra nice.
Seriously, I can remember exactly what you are talking about from when I was a kid. It seemed everyone I met had to commit on my looks first thing and didn't care about anything else. I didn't like it. So whenever I see that happening to other little girls, my stomache does a roll. People just need to wise up and realize they are doing harm.
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I am tired of saying the s word in this thread... but maybe your attitude is the result of people you know and hangout with. In my household we tell the girls they are smart, we talk to them about their grades, and we help them study. Education is important... In fact, the majority of college students today are women, not men. An intelligent woman is not a rare species.