how many gay black belts do you know vs. how many gay hair dressers? its a matter of statistics and thats all.. you seem to feel because you can find one gay person with a bit of masculinity, there must be an even distribution overall in any field.. not true.
have you served your country to know what is and what isnt dispersed in terms of gay soldiers throughout the various occupations? it just might be that a general lack of military exposure on your part clouds your perception, rather than just assuming i have had so limited an encounter with gay people that it must be me in the wrong.
again as i personally have seen.. gay soldiers are are far less likely to be found in more agressive MOS's and more likely to be found in clerical positions and changing DADT will not change this in the least. is it a problem? no it never was and will never be, it just is..