Why make a big deal out of this? Every other military which has phased in openly serving gays has found it to be much to do about nothing. There is no reason to believe that is going to change with our miliary. Trying to create some convoluted policy to protect everyone is more trouble than it is worth. If someone is acting in an unprofessional manner, whether they are gay or straight, there are already policies to deal with it.
This is pretty much the McCain tactic. "Oh yeah, let's do away with the ban. But first let's have a study. And then another study because we didn't like the first study. And then have several hearings even though we have had like a dozen hearings on this issue already. And then let's have another study so that we can know the absolute perfect way of doing away with this policy"
It never ends. It's nothing but a stall tactic.