By placing blame *just* on the bullies they are possibly overlooking other causes that might have been present and might have contributed - the bullying is just *one* likely factor.
I'm bothered, though, by future rule-implications.
Yes, bullying is a huge problem and needs to be ended or squelched as much as possible (I was bullied in school for countless years because I was short, skinny and wore glasses - I know how it feels and I know it can haunt you - I'm not just speaking out of my senseless ass). But often when our school system identifies something as a *very bad problem that we must stop immediately* they go overboard - and the next thing we know kindergardeners get suspended for bringing happy meal toys to school because they shoot a projectile and kids are expelled for having a plastic butter knife in their lunchbox.
I sense an extreme-bad-reaction status of 'no tolerance' coming along in reaction to bullying and it'll lead to harmless and loving kids being expelled for just making a funny face at another kid on the playground or calling someone 'stupid' at lunch time.
So - they can't just focus on *the bullies* if they want to end these suicide-situations - because that's only *a part* of the problem. . . and I really hope they don't go extreme in their efforts, either, which will get truly innocent kids punished just for being normal children.
One thing they need to try to figure out is *why* these types of bully behaviors which are negative have more of an impact than the larger variety of more positive things in someone's life.
Mohat had friends - I'm sure a lot of people liked him. How many teens bullied him? Probably far fewer than those who cared for him - but their negativity had more of a lasting and strong effect than anyone's positivity.
I was bullied, pushed around, set up to take the blame for another student's actions in school - for years - in a variety of different schools. People just didn't like me, I was always a target - but I didn't break down in my teen years like that - my very few friends I had who were positive had more of an impact on me than those who were negative in my life.
Why can some people handle it - and others can't?
Unless they focus on the individual problems student to student - psychologically, etc - they'll never actually figure it out.
Last edited by Aunt Spiker; 10-08-10 at 08:28 PM.
A screaming comes across the sky.
It has happened before, but there is nothing to compare it to now.Pynchon - Gravity's Rainbow
Fiddling While Rome Burns
Carthago Delenda Est
"I used to roll the dice; see the fear in my enemies' eyes... listen as the crowd would sing, 'now the old king is dead, Long Live the King.'.."
Sad to see.
My graduating class had 1,200 people in it. We lost 112 people over the course of 4 years. 23 of them were suicides.
See my last post
There are probably more reasons but now I'm tired of listing them.
In our community, there are really only 2 private high schools that my kids could attend. One is whackdoo religious and the other is extremely expensive (and has a major drug problem). I'm okay with my kids being in public schools.
in fact I am only aware of three deaths of students, one was a suicide, one was cancer (a boy a couple years behind me-I was at his funeral) and another guy who was killed when his boat hit a log jam and he broke his neck being thrown from the boat.