Then that would be wrong, since if it really was private it would be strictly a "he said, she said" affair. If it's as easy as telling your CO "sir, Private Pyle over there told me he likes to suck dick" without any legitimate proof, I think the dismissal rate would be a little higher. Men can be juvenile, especially since the military doesn't exactly attract the brightest minds. Why do you think the south has a disproportionate amount who serve?There have actually been many documented cases where people have been discharged for as little as that.
I wouldn't want DADT revoked, but tweaked to make it more equal, and something akin to what you could expect at an office. I don't tell everyone I work with which secretary I'd screw. That's for certain ears only. And if my boss heard me say that Linda has nice tits, I'd expect to be reprimanded as well.