I recently read a column of yours about the trial regarding Prop. 8 in California. You expressed that if Prop. 8 is overturned, you would be forced to give up some of your rights. I'm simply writing to ask, "What right?" What right would you be forced to give up? To say that you think gay marriage isn't right? As far as I know, there is no law that would abridge your 1st Amendment rights to state what you think. It would not upset your right to freedom of religion, as there is no bill proposed anywhere that I'm aware of that would force churches to perform ceremonies for same-sex couples (just as there is no bill that forces churches to marry heterosexual couples of different religions).
So, instead of spouting out that you will lose your rights, please explain exactly what rights will be lost to you if gays and lesbians are allowed to marry.
I've thought this through for a long time and I don't see how expanding marriage to same-sex couples inhibits the rights of anyone. It's not "mandatory same-sex marriage". No one is going to force you to attend a gay wedding against your will. You're still allowed to express your opinion against gay marriage. Your church will not have to marry same-sex couples. So what right do you lose?
We have to debate this issue fairly. I don't believe that you are. You complain about being called a "hater" or "bigoted", but you use vague language about lost rights without ever enumerating what rights will be lost to you if same-sex couples can wed. Until you do that, you leave those opposed to your ideas with no real explanation as to why you're in such opposition. Are straight marriages the best place to raise a child? Sure. Agreed. But is the road to supporting traditional marriage truly paved with punishing the percentage of families who live differently? Is the divorce rate amongst heterosexual couples the result of gay rights? Or is it because of the economic pressures that have made nearly every family have to be a dual working-parent family? Or is it that, since suburbanization in the 1950's nuclear families left behind extended families who used to be part of their support system?
I just believe that your views are too simplistic - or at least, they remain flawed by a lack of specifics. After all, Massachusetts has had same-sex marriage equality for six years now - and that state still has one of the highest marriage rates and lowest divorce rates in the Union. It didn't drop off into the ocean. The Earth didn't stop rotating and heterosexual couples don't appear to be under any additional pressure as a result.
I'm not asking you to change your mind. It's your right to believe as you will (God bless America) - but if you're going to argue against the extension of rights to all citizens regardless of sexual orientation, you have to provide solid evidence to support the discrimination (read the majority decision in Romer v. Evans) that is inherent in your belief (please note: I'm not saying "bigotry" but "discrimination" in the legal sense). By claiming that you somehow lose "rights" without explaining what they are, you fail in your argument.