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    Re: Mom finds missing children using Facebook

    Quote Originally Posted by independent_thinker2002 View Post
    I don't know about other states, but my state has a program for people who can't afford legal services to still obtain legal services for stuff like this.
    Every state does, but oh my god, legal aid sucks so bad.
    They have a years-long waiting list, sometimes, to get in to speak to someone.
    When I went to get my divorce, my dad initially told me to go to legal aid for representation.
    When we realized how bad it sucked, he hired me an attorney.

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    Re: Mom finds missing children using Facebook

    Quote Originally Posted by 1069 View Post
    It just seems like a double standard to me.
    We seem to give mothers the benefit of the doubt in this society, and be quick to vilify fathers for the same actions.
    We seem to feel it's a mother's right (and duty) to protect her children at all costs, even if it means breaking and/or disregarding the law in order to do so.
    We do not seem to feel the same way about fathers.
    As the child of a male single parent, it bothers me.

    Why are mothers assumed to be above the law when it comes to assuring the well-being of their children, and fathers aren't?

    All parents should get the benefit of the doubt in these cases- that they acted in good faith, for the best interest of their children, and therefore should not be punished- or else none should.
    I understand your point about the double standard. But people do things that are in the best interest of their kids in their minds but the law disagrees. Both parents have equal rights until the court restricts or strips them of those rights. We can't allow the first one to kidnap them to be the one to make that call.
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    Re: Mom finds missing children using Facebook

    Quote Originally Posted by 1069 View Post
    Every state does, but oh my god, legal aid sucks so bad.
    They have a years-long waiting list, sometimes, to get in to speak to someone.
    When I went to get my divorce, my dad initially told me to go to legal aid for representation.
    When we realized how bad it sucked, he hired me an attorney.
    If the other parent is a danger to the kids, it doesn't take Perry Mason to prove it.
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    Re: Mom finds missing children using Facebook

    Quote Originally Posted by independent_thinker2002 View Post
    I understand your point about the double standard. But people do things that are in the best interest of their kids in their minds but the law disagrees. Both parents have equal rights until the court restricts or strips them of those rights. We can't allow the first one to kidnap them to be the one to make that call.
    I'm not talking about the law, per se.
    The law might well be treating the kidnapper the same, regardless of his sex.
    I'm talking about the reaction of ordinary citizens to the case.
    Activists would be taking to the streets in protest, if he were female.
    There would be a huge public outcry.
    There'd be editorials in every paper by formerly abused women and children, about how he's a hero for rescuing his kids.

    I'm talking about assumptions people make, based on the gender of the parent in question.
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    Re: Mom finds missing children using Facebook

    Quote Originally Posted by independent_thinker2002 View Post
    If the other parent is a danger to the kids, it doesn't take Perry Mason to prove it.
    Not true.
    Two and three year olds are often abused quite a bit, before anyone manages to prove it definitively in court and remove them from their abuser's custody.
    Sometimes they're actually killed by their abuser, and it later turns out that the abuse had been reported and investigated on numerous occasions in the past, but CPS still never found enough evidence to remove them from the situation.

    This is especially true in middle-class and affluent households, where the abuser has the means to take legal recourse against the investigators.
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    Re: Mom finds missing children using Facebook

    Quote Originally Posted by Korimyr the Rat View Post
    Yeah. They're adults as far as I'm concerned. The only reason they couldn't stay with their father is that custodial interference is a crime; if he caught a suspended sentence-- say, under the condition that he not interfere with her visitation-- then I see little reason why they couldn't continue to live with him.
    I think that your suggestion would be the most appropriate for the children.

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