I suppose we just look at things differently. If someone had my son and I thought that torture might in anyway get him back than that is what I would do. If I thought that torturing the person was going to be something that I couldnt live with than I would still go ahead and do it and if I found I couldnt live with it than I would take my own life happily knowning that I did every thing possible to save my sons life. The one thing that I know I could never live with is not doing what ever I could do to keep my son from harm. If he is ok everything else is a minor concern.