As long as we're clear that those are you feelings and not accurate interpretations of my argument. Feelings are what they are.
I thought I've been abundantly clear that I support giving privilege to couples raising children
The heteros raising children should get it, the heteros not raising children should not. The gays raising children should get it, the gays not raising children should not.
I can't support gays per-se because not all gays are raising children. Even among those who are, I already oppose folks creating step-parents so it follows that I'm going to oppose gays marrying when doing so will create a step-parent.
The right to marry is not a right of heteros for gays to then be denied.
The right to marry is a right of anyone who is raising and socializing children, and yes those couples are to be exalted above all other couples and given special privileges. The reason why they should be given such is to support the stability of those couples and the health and success of those children.
When gay-marriage is about raising and socializing children, then and only then can we turn a blind eye to the benign exception of the rare couple who wish to marry without children being a part of the picture.
My intent is to refocus the gay-marriage movement into a Conservative movement so that it becomes a solution to existing problems. My motivation is my childhood and all the crap my parents pout me through.
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My argument also denies
me the right to marry.
No, I'm not gay, but my argument isn't about gays or any other identity group.
It's about the purpose of marriage: the raising and socializing of children.
One might argue that as I have children to raise, that I should remarry so that they grow up in a 2-parent home instead of a single-parent home. Someone could offer a lot of credible data showing that children are better off in 2-parent homes, also.
But that would be a step-parent dynamic, and that dynamic is the leading cause for divorce among second marriages. My kids are better served by my not marrying. I would support legislation banning anyone with minor children from obtaining a marriage license unless they are marrying the adoptive or bio parent of those children. I would also support legislation defining child abuse to include cohabitation with unrelated adults who are not married to the parent.
My argument applies to
anyone with children. Unless you are marrying the parent of that child/ren, you should remain single until your youngest child turns 18.
So go ahead and call me a homophobe even-though my argument opposes more hetero marriages than gay marriages. Go ahead and call me a bigot even-though I respect the civil rights of others after the election does not go my way. Go ahead and call me a religious zealot even-though my argument is has no aspect of religion.
If any given couples does not have children, they should STFU as marriage is not about them or their type of association; it doesn't matter if they're gay, hetero, or other.