Now I'm not going to say that she wasn't violating the rules, because she was, but that doesn't make the rules right.
"A woman is like a teabag, you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Keep your religion out of other people's marriages.
People sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.
That being said...she did violate the terms of DADT by getting married. If she wanted to keep her career she shouldnt have done that. arguing the merits of DADT is immaterial. It is what it is and she violated what it is.