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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by CriticalThought View Post
    I'm not talking about Mullen. I'm talking about General Raymond T. Odierno.
    Another paper-pusher. He's subordinate to Mullen, by the way.

    Since he's the highest ranking official in the military.

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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by DrunkenAsparagus View Post
    I'm going to ask this for the millionth time. What problems popped up after Canada, the UK, and Australia allowed openly gay people to serve in their militaries?
    I don't know. Maybe there were some problems; can you tell me there weren't?

    Either way, the United States is not the same as Canada, the UK, or Australia. Our military is different and unique to our society.

    CC went through this earlier in the thread. You being in the military doesn't give you the only perspective in the debate
    Did I say that?

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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by Ethereal View Post
    What about infantry units? How are you going to sit there and tell me what will happen in units you know nothing about? You were in the Navy, I'm happy for you, but that doesn't mean you know anything about the grunts and what their reaction will be to this policy change. Based upon my experience, I can say there will be problems. Some units might be fine with it, but others will not. My unit (Second Battalion, Fifth Marine Regiment) was damn intense. An openly gay dude living amongst us would have caused numerous problems; that's damn fact, yet, here you and Redress are, Navy veterans, telling me everything will be fine. How could you possibly know that? What are you basing that upon? You never served in the Marines, and you never served in an infantry unit. I did and I'm telling you it will cause problems. Infantry Marines aren't nice and sweet like you want them to be; they're full of hate and discontent and they want to kill the enemy. They're a unique breed of warrior and your wishful thinking isn't going to change that. Get with the program...
    I married a Marine tow-gunner. I know that's not the same as being in, but I also had some contact with other Marines. I do have a little more insight than just what I'm assuming will happen based on my experience. I do understand that's different.

    The one important aspect I think you're missing is that in general, most military members don't want to get in trouble. That, in itself will keep too much from occurring. Another thing is most of the gay guys aren't going to openly come out and announce to everyone and their brother that their gay and totally flaunt it just because they can. That would be highly stupid of them. Some will, but there are ways to deal with problems.
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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by roguenuke View Post
    I married a Marine tow-gunner. I know that's not the same as being in, but I also had some contact with other Marines. I do have a little more insight than just what I'm assuming will happen based on my experience. I do understand that's different.
    Okay then, I'm not sure how that disproves anything I've said. A gay dude in my unit would have caused numerous problems. He would have caught hell for it, first of all, none of the Marines would have wanted to room with him, they sure as hell wouldn't have respected him as a leader, and he would have probably taken issue with our constant use of gay slurs. Sometimes things get violent in infantry units, too, and don't even get me started on the actual combat zones; things get nasty over there.

    The group is supposed to be tightly knit and clannish; it would be virtually impossible for a gay dude to coalesce with the rest of his peers in some units, other units might be different. That's why I think it should be left up to the commanders instead of you or me or the Congress or Mothers of America. Why don't you think a unit commander is capable of exercising proper discretion?

    The one important aspect I think you're missing is that in general, most military members don't want to get in trouble.
    There are plenty of ways to make someone's life hell without breaking the rules.

    That, in itself will keep too much from occurring. Another thing is most of the gay guys aren't going to openly come out and announce to everyone and their brother that their gay and totally flaunt it just because they can. That would be highly stupid of them. Some will, but there are ways to deal with problems.
    Perhaps, perhaps not. And if they aren't going to come out, then what's the point of repealing DADT?

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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by Ethereal View Post
    Okay then, I'm not sure how that disproves anything I've said. A gay dude in my unit would have caused numerous problems. He would have caught hell for it, first of all, none of the Marines would have wanted to room with him, they sure as hell wouldn't have respected him as a leader, and he would have probably taken issue with our constant use of gay slurs. Sometimes things get violent in infantry units, too, and don't even get me started on the actual combat zones; things get nasty over there.

    The group is supposed to be tightly knit and clannish; it would be virtually impossible for a gay dude to coalesce with the rest of his peers in some units, other units might be different. That's why I think it should be left up to the commanders instead of you or me or the Congress or Mothers of America. Why don't you think a unit commander is capable of exercising proper discretion?
    Because that's still not fair. Allowing the unit commander to have an option of transferring the person could be ok, but not discharging. Technically that would pretty much like it is now.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ethereal View Post
    There are plenty of ways to make someone's life hell without breaking the rules.
    True, but it would cut out some of the major fears.


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    Perhaps, perhaps not. And if they aren't going to come out, then what's the point of repealing DADT?
    Because the military is one entity. You can't repeal it for one or two parts only. It has to be repealed for the entire military. Also, some gays just want to be able to serve without the fear of being discharged if they are found out. They don't necessarily care about being able to come out and flaunt their sexuality. Also, there's the whole honor thing, about not having to lie, because even though DADT means that you can't be asked if you're gay, they still know that they're technically not supposed to be in. And before they can truly serve openly, most likely Article 125 of the UCMJ will be put up for review and changed to exclude consentual sodomy. This will mean that some, if not all, will be able to honestly say that they aren't disobeying a law of the UCMJ just by sleeping with someone they are attracted to or even in love with.

    Would every guy in your unit ostracize a gay guy or would it just be a handful? And what if the guy already proved himself to the unit? Are you saying they'll turn on him that fast just for being gay? It's not like he would have had to be lying to them if he was just keeping his personal life private. That doesn't seem very close knit to me. Just an illusion of it, if they would turn on a friend so quickly just for being gay.
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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by roguenuke View Post
    Because that's still not fair.
    Who cares about fair? This isn't preschool, it's the infantry.

    Allowing the unit commander to have an option of transferring the person could be ok, but not discharging. Technically that would pretty much like it is now.
    Who said they couldn't transfer them? Do you think a Marine Captain is too stupid to figure things out on his own? Discharging someone takes time and money and decreases our numerical superiority; obviously, if he can just send the gay dude to another unit that's what he'll do. Like I said, I'm confident that our military commanders can figure things out without you and me and some stupid-ass politician micromanaging them.

    True, but it would cut out some of the major fears.
    I highly doubt it. I had a hard enough time as a straight dude in the infantry; can't imagine what it would be like if I were gay...

    Because the military is one entity. You can't repeal it for one or two parts only.
    I said: Unit discretion. That means the same standard is applied to all units.

    It has to be repealed for the entire military. Also, some gays just want to be able to serve without the fear of being discharged if they are found out. They don't necessarily care about being able to come out and flaunt their sexuality. Also, there's the whole honor thing, about not having to lie, because even though DADT means that you can't be asked if you're gay, they still know that they're technically not supposed to be in. And before they can truly serve openly, most likely Article 125 of the UCMJ will be put up for review and changed to exclude consentual sodomy. This will mean that some, if not all, will be able to honestly say that they aren't disobeying a law of the UCMJ just by sleeping with someone they are attracted to or even in love with.
    These are all ideological and philosophical concerns. Fair...equal...honor. Those are just words. I'm more concerned with the actual results; the lives and the objectives at stake.

    Would every guy in your unit ostracize a gay guy or would it just be a handful?
    I'd say around 95% of them would have actively ridiculed him.

    And what if the guy already proved himself to the unit?
    They would probably be more resentful of him. My senior Marines hated me when I first showed up to the fleet (well, they always hated me) because I was kind of cocky and very smart. They didn't like it, and they made my life harder because of it. If I had told them I was gay...

    Good lord, I can't even imagine...

    Are you saying they'll turn on him that fast just for being gay?
    Yup.

    It's not like he would have had to be lying to them if he was just keeping his personal life private. That doesn't seem very close knit to me. Just an illusion of it, if they would turn on a friend so quickly just for being gay.
    Homophobia is irrational. Stop trying to make sense of it and just accept the fact that lots of grunts don't like gay guys. I don't understand why this is so surprising. There's plenty of regular Americans who are uncomfortable with gays, why should you expect an ultra-conservative niche of blood-thirsty devil dogs to be different?

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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by roguenuke View Post
    Things have changed a lot Navy.

    It may not happen this year, but I'd bet it's going to happen in the next 5 years or so. The biggest obstacle it has is getting past people's fears of what will happen, since there's no actual proof anyone has that it will cause major problems.
    That is possible and it seems like a lot of people in this forum are for lifting the ban, of course it does not affect them..they are not in the military...they might feel different if they were...

    If they do lift the ban I can see huge problems with straights serving....I can see fight and all kinds of disciplanary problems that the Navy or any other service does not need....I can see a mass exodus of senior enlisted personnel because they will not accept knowingly living, dressing, and showering with gay people.......I really don't see the same problem with lesbians though...For whatever reason lesbianism seems more acceptable.........

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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by Ethereal View Post
    Who cares about fair? This isn't preschool, it's the infantry.



    Who said they couldn't transfer them? Do you think a Marine Captain is too stupid to figure things out on his own? Discharging someone takes time and money and decreases our numerical superiority; obviously, if he can just send the gay dude to another unit that's what he'll do. Like I said, I'm confident that our military commanders can figure things out without you and me and some stupid-ass politician micromanaging them.



    I highly doubt it. I had a hard enough time as a straight dude in the infantry; can't imagine what it would be like if I were gay...



    I said: Unit discretion. That means the same standard is applied to all units.



    These are all ideological and philosophical concerns. Fair...equal...honor. Those are just words. I'm more concerned with the actual results; the lives and the objectives at stake.



    I'd say around 95% of them would have actively ridiculed him.



    They would probably be more resentful of him. My senior Marines hated me when I first showed up to the fleet (well, they always hated me) because I was kind of cocky and very smart. They didn't like it, and they made my life harder because of it. If I had told them I was gay...

    Good lord, I can't even imagine...



    Yup.



    Homophobia is irrational. Stop trying to make sense of it and just accept the fact that lots of grunts don't like gay guys. I don't understand why this is so surprising. There's plenty of regular Americans who are uncomfortable with gays, why should you expect an ultra-conservative niche of blood-thirsty devil dogs to be different?
    Certain rules have never been decided by commanders, but by those pencil pushers and politicians above them. Should the commanders have the same free reign to discharge anyone that they found didn't fit in, and not just be forced to make him fit or transfer him?

    I meant it would cut out the fears that there would be a huge number of deaths or beatings of gays that were found out. Going back I see how that could have been misunderstood. Most guys are not going to risk their career to beat or kill a guy for being gay. Make his life tougher, sure. But not kill him. There might be one or two cases of beatings or deaths, but those sometimes happen now under DADT.
    And as I've mentioned before it's not much different than those guys who have issues with interracial dating. The biggest difference is there are so few of those left nowdays to do much major damage. I did meet two Marines in HI though that had really big issues with interracial dating. Now if they would have tried anything in this day and age against another Marine who was dating a girl of a different race, they'd probably fail and get in major trouble for it.
    So maybe we should look and see if this caused any problems for the military in the past when a lot fewer people were tolerant of interracial dating? It could give a perspective on how to deal with problems arising from allowing gays to serve openly.

    I wasn't talking about a new transfer into the unit. I'm talking about someone that they all had accepted into the unit, who had gone out on deployment with them, who had spent off-time with them, who showed them that he could do the same job they do, and who has been with them a while and they consider a friend. Would they feel the same way if they considered the guy a friend, one of them? I don't think you could absolutely say they would. I think most guys would truly care less, even those in infantry.

    Also, I think you'd be surprised at how not "ultraconservative" these guys really are. I hung out with a lot of Marines in Hawaii, before and especially after I met my husband. They all had different beliefs and political leanings on many things. I had a Marine come out of the closet to a fellow Marine on my balcony. The reaction wasn't anger, it was more of disbelief over how many Marines he knew that were gay.

    I've said it before and I'll say it again, most of the problems that people imagine it will cause I'm pretty sure won't be nearly as bad as people think, even those who have been in the most susceptible units. We'll never know the truth until it happens.
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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by Navy Pride View Post
    If they do lift the ban I can see huge problems with straights serving....I can see fight and all kinds of disciplanary problems that the Navy or any other service does not need....I can see a mass exodus of senior enlisted personnel because they will not accept knowingly living, dressing, and showering with gay people.......
    ...but they can serve as long as they don't know about it? As long as it's secret, they would have no problems showering with a gay? That's ridiculous. You honestly think that servicemen would abandon the military because they would feel uncomfortable with showering with gays?

    The same servicemen who are willing to risk their lives to serve our military, but you don't think they can risk showering with gays?

    I really don't see the same problem with lesbians though...For whatever reason lesbianism seems more acceptable.........
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    Re: 2 Generals Wary About Repealing Gay Policy

    Quote Originally Posted by Ethereal View Post
    Why are you confident that unit cohesion amongst infantry units won't be degraded? How could you be confident when you know virtually nothing about those units? This is why I don't think you care...because you're making assumptions and ignoring opposing viewpoints.
    Because the chief element in unit cohesion and morale is the ability of it's leadership. This has been true almost always. Further, I can compare the effects that allowing gays to serve has had on other infantries.

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