I have not heard of one mention of either mae or taser....
Would those of you who shrink from using a gun be more willing to employ a less lethal method of self protection?.....
I'm about 2 days late on chiming in, but I got through the first 3 pages and felt compelled to comment.
I don't think the article is saying that any women who is raped deserved it. Not in the slightest. I think the article is saying that women who place themselves in questionable situations should bare some responsibility for what happens to them, i.e., rape.
For example: I think we all can agree that no woman deserves to be beaten by their husband or boyfriend. Yet, how many women have continued to date/marry men whom they knew had a violent past? Not the same you say? Well, consider the woman who walks down a dark street alone at 2am, or who dresses with her top down to here and her skirt/dress up to there, or the woman who just has to be the life of the party and is always surrounded by men at every social event or night club she attends (I've seen it happen, folks!). Did these women deserve to be raped? No. But they placed themselves in very questionable positions in some cases sending off the wrong signals to men that they want to have more than just fun on any given night.
I totally agree that no matter the circumstance, no does mean NO! Thus, an honorable man who respects women will stop himself from going any further than the woman would allow. But...
The woman who dresses provocatively, walks alone at night with no regard for her safety or well-being or who practically throws herself at just about any good looking guy she sees is just asking for trouble. That's what the article is trying to convey.
Now, personally, I really don't have a problem with a woman dressing any way she darn well pleases. However, what I do have a problem with is said woman wearing say a tight red, low-cut dress w/clevage for days, fishnet stockings and 6-inch stelletos and then she wants to get upset with me for going all googley eyed at her. Well, what do you women expect us men to do when you walk around looking like that? C'mon, now. Let's be real...
(Some of) you walk around wearing your low-cut belly shirts and low-rider hip-hugger jeans that reveal the top of your thong and that well designed, well-illustrated "tramp-stamp" on your lower back...yet we're NOT suppose to look and drool over that?
Truth is, women bare some responsibility for such outcomes. You can't have it both ways. If you dress that provocative you should expect men to approach you in some very unwelcoming ways. That doesn't mean that women who dress in such ways are sending an invitation to be raped, but you should know that in dressing that way you are inviting some unwelcomed/unappreciated behavior from men.
My advise here is simple:
If you do have to walk home alone late night, take safety precautions, i.e., carry mace, get a loud noise-maker to alert the public you're in danger or take self-defense classes. If you meet a guy you like in a bar, you don't necessarily have to sleep with him the first night or on the first date. Take a little time to get to know him. You can bang his brains out later after you've become better acquainted. Of course, even such a delay doesn't guarantee that the guy isn't a wacko, but you increase your odds that he's not if you just take the time to get to know him (which might even involved getting to know some of his friends and/or family). If you don't want uninvited attention, dress down as my mother use to say. You can still look sexy without revealling so much of yourself. Sometimes, a little bit (of skin) goes a very long way. Sound old-fashioned...???...maybe, but I guarentee you'll be respected and very little harm will come of you by taking precautions and dressing in a more self-respecting and less provocative manner.
Last edited by Objective Voice; 02-18-10 at 12:41 PM.
Last edited by koi; 02-20-10 at 04:09 PM.
Instead of "bears", "bares".
And not the “bear” “bear”, but the “bear” “bear”.
You get the difference?
You can try to bear up under the mauling of a rabid/insane bears, but you might not be able to bear it…And being bare won’t help.
The English language is so much fun…
Sometimes I think we're alone. Sometimes I think we're not. In either case, the thought is staggering. ~ R. Buckminster Fuller