I had a change of mind about something else related to the Iraq war. I have always felt that Iraqis would see that working together across sectarian divides and doing reconciliation would be in their best interests. In a conversation with a friend, it was pointed out to me that my hope here was not reflected by reality. It was a crushing moment. I still have not lost hope that it will be so, but I recognize the reality. It leaves me in a strange position of both hoping and being skeptical at the same time. This is the world as I wish it to be and the world as it is.