To me, it looks like a case of deferred adjudication, in which case, will not be in the public records. She could be telling the truth.
Look, I don't agree with 10 on anything. In fact, I do not like 10. But I believe she deserves a chance to state her case. She does not trust you, and so, has offered to give personal information to somebody she does trust, in order to verify her story. Captain Courtesy is the person she chose, and I trust him to be honest. So, instead of bashing 10, lighten up and let the Captain do his research, that is, if both you and 10, along with the Captain, are in agreement on this approach. Simply calling her a liar and bashing her is something we would expect in the old Soviet Empire. This is America, so let her make her case to the Captain, and let the Captain report back to you, before you decide she should be lynched. If the Captain determines that she lied, then shame on her, and she should be remembered as Bonnie was remembered - As a liar. On the other hand, if the Captain determines that she is telling the truth, then you should man up and apologize to her.
Reverend - Agreed?
10 - Agreed?
Captain - Are you willing to participate?
I can't believe you think I would lie about what's happening to my poor baby.
Do you really think this makes a good or entertaining story?
My friends on the board, including the Cap'n, have known about all this since mid-December. I've been distraught, I've been PMing them about things as they develop. This is my youngest, my baby, my 17-year-old. Just turned 17.
Is everyone
else on the board also willing to give Cap'n their children's names and social security numbers so that he can look into their criminal records and verify that they are who they say they are?
I have been extremely careful about sharing identifying information in my years on this board.
I think I can trust the Cap'n not to mess things up for us, at least not deliberately. I'm just so scared about giving out my baby's name and identifying information to
anyone on the internet, when his situation is so precarious. He's enlisted, but he's not shipping for months yet. I've got to get him safely through the next few months. It's just a very uncertain time. His safety, his future, and possibly his very life is hanging in the balance, and I think that might be a little more important than mom's internet cred, unless mom is a completely psychotic asshole. I trust the Cap'n, but I don't really know who he
is. And if the forum at large, after knowing me three years, thinks I'd lie about such a thing, I'm not sure why I'd feel compelled to give out my minor child's identifying information in order to prove anything to you anyway. You obviously don't know me, care about me, or have my or my child's best interests at heart.
Cap'n, tell me what to do. What would you do in this situation?
And Rev, don't you
ever let me catch you impunging others' service again. Your service isn't
crap, compared to being forced to send one's beloved child into war. If you think I wouldn't go in his place if they'd let me, you're insane, you don't understand what it is to be a parent, and you aren't
fit to be one, and you never will be.