You wife appears to be one of the fortunate people who have the ability to have a drink without becoming addicted. If she is truly not addicted then she has no need for the drug. Why bring it home and around an alcoholic if there is no need for the drug?
Because she enjoys it and it isn't a problem for her.
If she enjoys and it doesn't cause any problems why on Earth would I want to stand in the way of her enjoying it?
I don't expect the world to revolve around me, or for other people to have to walk around eggshells around me, when it comes to alcohol.
I'm a member of Alcoholics Anonymous, but I am not in any way anonymous when it comes to my alcoholism.
My friends, family, neighbors, colleagues - basically everyone - knows I'm a recovered alcoholic.
I have no desire to drink, I have no obsession with alcohol, I'm careful to ensure that I don't accidentally drink alcohol (both at home and in any other situation where alcohol is available), and alcohol isn't going to pin me down and just sorta jump in to my mouth without me making a conscious decision to drink it.
I don't care whether or not my wife keeps a couple of bottles of wine in our home, or whether my buddies have a couple of beers when we hang out together, or whether it's being served at a wedding or party or other function I choose to attend.
I know that alcohol is poison to me and I would no sooner pick it up and drink it "just because it was there" than you would pick up a bottle of Liquid Draino and drink it.
If alcohol were illegal as many drugs are would she still buy and use it subjecting herself and her family to the consequences of breaking the law?
Pretty unlikely.
She doesn't use any illegal drugs as it is, though she did when she was younger, so I doubt she would break the law in respect to alcohol.
My point is if you use a drug that is illegal and subject yourself to criminal charges and all the life long consequences of such actions you are either addicted or not very smart.
To be fair, I've used illegal drugs, and been arrested in possession of illegal drugs, and been arrested numerous times for alcohol-related crimes, and have suffered no significant "life long consequences" as a result.
I earned a graduate degree, hold down a six-figure job, have outstanding credit, own my own home, cars, vacation property, etc...
Could I be doing better still if I had put all my natural talents in to being the absolute "best me I could be" all along?
Maybe.
But maybe if I'd done that from the beginning and had gone to Harvard rather than Rutgers I would have been hit by a bus and killed while walking across Harvard Square with my nose buried in a textbook.
You never know. I think it's pointless, and I choose not to, look back and second guess my life that way.
Now, make no mistake, there have been an awful lot of consequences for the way I've lived my life, some of them terrible, especially related to the effect my behavior has had on other people.
But from just a law enforcement perspective there has been nothing that's affected me long-term to any appreciable degree.
For all the pain and consequences I also had a hell of a lot of fun living my life the way I have and I don't know if that's something I would want to trade for your (society's) idea of how I should have been living my life.
So I'm sort of torn on the idea of it not being very smart to do things that have consequences (even legal consequences).