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11 year old bomber targets Nigeria market,kills dozens

Black Dog said:
Yes. It's funny as men we are or were when I was growing up taught not to cry etc because we are men. I think that makes it even harder. Always have to be tough, which is fine but it does not make it any easier to deal with all the sick and inhumane things going on around us. You just want to scream and make it all stop.
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The mantra has been pretty well enforced...right? Shut up, stop crying, grow up...be a man. And if as a kid you dare show feelings and emotions, knock it off...or I'll give you something to cry about. As a young man...if you get your heart broken by a girl and shed a few manly tears...well...expect your 'friends' to attack the very essence of who we are taught to be...our manhood. And then people wonder why its so hard for some people to be able to communicate...to express...to allow themselves to feel, let alone to show feelings and emotion.

There is a time and place for it. I think exposure to the ugliness changes people. That can in many instances be a good thing. I'm a big fan though of the concept of post traumatic growth. Just requires a paradigm and perspective shift.

At the end of the day...we can recoil in horror over this...but rather than retreat, become stronger in our resolve to fight it. And there IS only one way to fight it. End those that cause it.
 
VanceMack said:
The mantra has been pretty well enforced...right? Shut up, stop crying, grow up...be a man. And if as a kid you dare show feelings and emotions, knock it off...or I'll give you something to cry about. As a young man...if you get your heart broken by a girl and shed a few manly tears...well...expect your 'friends' to attack the very essence of who we are taught to be...our manhood. And then people wonder why its so hard for some people to be able to communicate...to express...to allow themselves to feel, let alone to show feelings and emotion.

There is a time and place for it. I think exposure to the ugliness changes people. That can in many instances be a good thing. I'm a big fan though of the concept of post traumatic growth. Just requires a paradigm and perspective shift.

At the end of the day...we can recoil in horror over this...but rather than retreat, become stronger in our resolve to fight it. And there IS only one way to fight it. End those that cause it.
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Yea pretty much. I however don't think being desensitized to it over time is a good thing. People become hard and the truly bad things that go on around us are overlooked or shrugged off as commonplace. I don't see that as empowering or good.

I don't have any answers and I will just keep clearing my mind and staying happy. I will just deal with the sadness the world throws at me like a man and move on. If I ever have the chance to help or change something I will continue to take that chance. It is the only thing that keeps me sane.
 
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