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But only a very small minority of gay couples adopt children or have children and they are doing it today, even where SSM is not legal. I know several gay couples with children, not legally married in TN, so far....
So you're somehow assuming that gay couples with children getting married affects straight couples and reduces the likelihood of them getting or staying married or living in nice neighborhoods. I can't connect those dots. A gay couple lives a few doors down from me. If they marry, then...... nothing happens. I'm still married, so are all my married neighbors, etc.
Again, traditional marriage will be unaffected by SSM. And if gay couples marry, how does that harm any of these benefits?
I'm not sure of the numbers, but I'm confident that there are maybe 100 or perhaps 1,000 single straight mothers, straight divorces, broken straight families for every one gay couple with a child or children. So we are, as I see it, focusing on the least of the problems with raising children in 2015 in America. In other words, I'd suggest the goal should be to strengthen ALL families instead of focusing on preventing or limiting the rights of a very small share of families with children.
I appreciate the sentiment otherwise, but I don't see how more marriage or more people with the right to marry signals that marriage is meaningless. I'd argue the 180 degree opposite, that it signals that marriage is important to many families, including gay families.
What gives the signal that marriage is meaningless is a high rate of straight divorce.
You are assuming that I assume something that I have never assumed (or said).
What signals that marriage is becoming meaningless is the ever higher percentage of people who don't bother with it at all.