Come on, man. Step back. Breathe. If THAT is how you define the positives and negatives of 'marriage' then you cant POSSIBLY put that on 'gay marriage'. And if we are being honest...you probably would feel better with a blanket apology to people on this forum for letting your emotions get the better of you. Its not personal. Dont make it personal. Dont take it personally.
I've been married 33 years. Its been a battle but its also been fricken awesome. Never once has divorce come up as a possibility and the last thing ever on my mind would be about the negative financial aspect of separation and divorce. Dont tlet those things cloud your opinion on what is and always will be a powerful and beautiful thing.