It is called the 1st Amendment. I am a man in a same sex marriage, and I would personally fight any attempt to force a church that does not want to perform a same sex marriage to do so by the state. I even posted a thread on this forum not too long ago asking if a church should be required to perform same sex marriages even if they were made legal nationwide, and 98% of the posters in that thread agreed they should not. Nobody thinks this way but paranoid conservatives.