Being a ****head is legal, but still ****ty.
One of you will end up here next!
There's churches out there that have no problem with same sex relationships. The family and friends of the deceased did not pursue one. Instead chose one who does not accept it and refused to adhere to their wishes/beliefs. Yet you categorize it as "condemning and exiling gays". What you want is for others who find something to be sinful to compromise their beliefs to match yours.
Some Rabbis conferred on this issue and decided that if man was made in the image of God... He also made gay people. The pastor is an unforgiving creep.
If you're still confused I'd be happy to bulletpoint my beliefs using shorter sentences.
He made it known to the deceased's family that he could not celebrate that part of her life.
They refused to abide by his wishes and did so anyway which shows no respect for the one they want to perform a Christian funeral.
But then again this group had to resort to the Internet to find a pastor because between the two families and hundreds of friends they couldn't come up with the name of a pastor on their own. Go figure.