In my opinion the pastor is complete, ignorant, hateful douchebag and im surprised somebody didnt punch him right in the face
With that said if this was a church it had ever "right" to do so unless there was some type of contract that stated otherwise. Its gross but thats how it is and how rights work.
Most certainly I would not pay them a dime or fight to get my money back if already paid but AGAIN that would be based on if there was a contract allowing or not allowing that.
Her life is her life....a complete picture, not a snapshot of things the church doesnt 'like' or chooses to call out. How about if she was toasting friends in a pic and they objected to her drinking alcohol? Do a lot of churches take license to do those things or just ones that want to force their own judgement on people? Rather than, again, letting God do so.
The simple fact is the church and family disagreed on what should be allowed and the family, rather than comply, chose to take their party elsewhere. Why is this a problem? Is it just because gawdammit....they didnt get their way?
I dont think the family should have edited out people that were important to her. If they wanted to leave the pics in there then they should certainly be free to do so. Just hold the ceremony someplace else. Win win.