it's the "bad boy" thing.
it's why thugs, gangbangers, gansta rappers, felons, drug dealers, 1% bikers, and general lowlifes actually have girlfriends and wives....if chicks didn't dig "bad boys" all these dudes would be single.
hell, Charles Manson just got married, ferchristsake...
"Every girl wants a bad boy who will be good only for her, and every boy wants a good girl who will be bad only for him."
Iow, it's sort of an ego trip thing. The woman thinks she has something special which will save the man, and the man who is into the hero myth thing also wants to save the damsel in distress. I'm not sure that there's anything inherently wrong with desiring to be a positive force in someone's life, but it's a sort of sticky trap that you can get sucked into, where the game becomes one of perpetual screwing up/saving dynamics.
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