You are constantly insisting that it is something that is well hidden until those deviant gays do something that is vile or against some rule. Simply isn't real life. I knew the gay guys and girls in my department and they didn't hit on anyone inappropriately, definitely not compared to the straight guys. And they didn't "flaunt" it. They simply did things (less even) that heterosexuals did, had relationships, commented on their loved ones in a way that gave away their sex/gender, said they liked the same gender (possibly in response to being hit on, or merely commented on how they found someone of the same sex attractive. Nothing wrong with that and things that straight people do all the time, only in relation to the opposite sex.