ne of my friends and her husband tried for over ten years to adopt--did the home studies and all of that. But her father was a Vietnam vet, and even though they had been estranged for many years and my friend had already seized guardianship of her older sister with Down, her father was interviewed. And he always said plainly that he didn't want any "***damned gook" for a grandchild.
And that was enough to keep my friend from adopting for ten years. Luckily, she and her husband were able to adopt from Korea while the Olympics window of opportunity remained open because they didn't "mind" adopting a boy (this is often more difficult than adopting a girl).