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Well, that's the division I've pointed out -- how a hetero man or woman is expected or allowed to parent is different, and far more limiting. So are they spending time doing their gender roles, or spending it just being what the kid needs?
I dunno, I'd imagine it depends on the gay guy. But I always find it a little funny when people attribute this to "femininity," given the very cold realism that many women usually face relationships and children with (and not without good reason -- they're the ones asked to give up everything). However, what we clearly see here is that neither normative role is balanced, and there's every possibility it's not natural either.
I wondered if anyone would pick up on the normative role part. What type of child rearing, correctly brings up a person that fits into current social standards or the ability to thrive in certain roles of civilization? Meaning the typical- two parent, male/female dynamic doesn't necessitate the only way children can be raised successfully to survive. Single parents, hetero parents or gay parents are probably not as any particular group going to be better qualified than another, based on their orientation or companionship, rather more on their personality.
I think there was a time when children raised in homes with more family members in supportive role positions and financially capabilities were a benefit. But someones orientation or marriage status isn't as important a factor as providing a caring environment with positive reinforcements.