I mean, if you've got a ten-year-old and a twelve-year-old at home and you're still a "stay at home mom", yeah, you're probably milking it.
But if we're talking about a two-year-old and a four-year-old?
I'll tell you dude, my wife occasionally gets sent away on business for a week or so and I get to stay home with my boys and play "Mr. Mom".
Two full-time jobs doesn't begin to describe the work load involved.
The work isn't always "hard", but it's constant.
From 0530 in the morning when the little one wakes up til the older one goes to bed at 2100 it's just non-stop, in-your-face kids.
If one's not hungry the other one is trying to feed dishwasher pods to the dog. If one isn't covered head-to-toe with finger paint (from trying to eat it) the other one jumped off his dresser, onto the bed, bounced off, and is now lying in a crying, moaning heap on the floor. If you're not fighting one to get him into the bath you're chasing the other one as he gleefully runs down the hall giggling with scissors in his hand. Even when they're both being good ad gold it's, "Dad, come and play with me", "Dad, watch this movie with me", "Dad, let's play a game/sing a song/go for a walk/hog tie Jacob/etc..."
I'll log on to work at night in order to relax after spending a protracted period of time with my kids.