And that's a moot point: we're discussing mothers and fathers who are not married or in a close relationship to begin with (which is what this is in regard to. If we were talking about happily married husband and wife and she just wanted to have a moment I'd have a bit of a different view.)
The delivery room is filled with medical equipment, nurses, the doctor, and usually only one or two people are allowed to be *with* the mother. Usually: they encourage the mother to only have people with her who will give her encouragement, support, and maybe fulfill the place of a Lamaze, dula, or breathing coach (etc). You know: get her ice chips, help her to the bathroom if needed, hold the vomit tray, check on her contractions and so on when nurses aren't present.
No one sits idle in a delivery room. Everyone must do something while in there. Even fathers in a normal loving marriage are asked to suit up (full out scrubs - it IS a medical procedure. Health and cleanliness is highly important) and 'hold this' 'don't touch that' and 'stand here' - etc.
To deliver all of my children I had to lay with my legs held Indian style in the air. My husband and a nurse had to hold my legs like that THE WHOLE TIME I was i hard labor (8 hours - 2 hours - whatever)
After the baby is born there's little to no 'bonding' going on. Maybe the mother can hold the baby for a minute before they have to see to the baby's needs. Twice: I didn't even have that much because the babies were taken immediately for health intervention. Normally: The healthy born baby is taken and weighed, examined, cleaned, etc. You cannot touch the baby during this time. Mother is seen to, placenta delivered, vagina stitched - and so forth.
There's no time or room for people who are not serving a beneficial role in any of these areas. He can see the baby later. That's how every man in this country did it before. My father wasn't present for the delivery of any three of us (me and my 2 sisters). not that big of a deal.
It was major medical guffaw that went on when mothers and fathers pushed to be allowed in the PAST. That doesn't somehow become a default standard extended to everyone just because. They did that for the emotional benefit TO THE MOTHER. I loved having my husband with me because he was my COMFORT in the most difficult time of my life. We love each other and I needed him there and he did everything needed of him. A man who is not in a relationship with the woman will NOT be serving that purpose.
It's not necessary. It's a false claim to 'necessity'.
All of this hubub comes form people who have no sense of what goes on IN A DELIVERY ROOM, it seems. If you're not helping you're in the way - get the **** out.