I am no more wary of teenagers committing their lives to one another than I am of a 16 year old committing their life to a some skill.
As I get older I realize that marriage really is a learned skill, and like any other skill the true masters started young.
I married my wife when I was 27 and I still wasn't ready for marriage. Nobody is ever ready for marriage. We have had some horribly rocky patches, and the D word was floated around a few times but we did the hard work and are now coming back together as a couple in over the last 8 years or so. It was amazingly hard to stay committed to marriage during that time, but like most great things the marriage is worth all the pain.I personally found, having married a guy I met in college, that we were too young; we ended up drifting different ways and becoming different people and eventually divorced in late 30s. Would have been better to have broken up post-college. Of course, other people's results may vary.
To anything. As you becomes amazingly skilled at whatever it is that you are dedicated to it becomes more and more the outlet for the stresses of life. I would argue that the pinnacle of those dedications is a spouse, because nothing I have found could replace the serenity that a dedicated marriage brings to life. It's definitely harder to accomplish than the others since it requires two people of equal dedication, but it's not as hard as I once thought.Re "Your life's true pleasures, and the path to true happiness, reside in the lifelong commitments" - This would be a discussion for a different forum- but really? true happiness is making a lifetime commitment? To what - a person? a career? a philosophy?
It's hard to say, and I can't speak to your personal experience. I do see from the observation of those around me, however, that those the flitter from interest to interest throughout their life, dropping one thing when it gets hard for the temporary thrill of something new just never get to the really experience the transcending pleasure of mastery. It becomes really easy to assume we couldn't have been happier sticking it out simply because we remember the negatives for why we stopped pursuing something and can't know the outcome had we stuck with it.I know I have changed over the years, and if I hadn't changed my relationship or modified my philosophies, I doubt I'd be as happy as I am now. In terms of career, I've modified a bit, but haven't changed a lot; but I know a lot of people find great joy in totally changing careers midlife
I found the revelation in my own life interesting which is why I shared it.Anyway, not really for this forum; just found that line interesting.
I've never found sexual activity as a teen to be a source of happiness for them.And we'll have to disagree. I'd much rather 16 yr olds have protected sex than that they marry - whether someone their age (which means all the problems supporting themselves) or someone older.