Fiddling While Rome Burns
Carthago Delenda Est
"I used to roll the dice; see the fear in my enemies' eyes... listen as the crowd would sing, 'now the old king is dead, Long Live the King.'.."
" If no one among us is capable of governing himself, then who among us has the capacity to govern someone else ? "
I posted this in another thread someone did a study. They filmed dozens of people at a mall
then showed the films to hardened street criminals at a maximum security penitentiary and asked the thugs which of the people on film the thugs would mug and which ones they wouldn't screw with
an interesting finding was that one man was singled out by almost every thug as a guy the thugs would not want to mess with he was in his late forties, and was at best medium size and weight.
turned out he was a decorated special forces veteran who had been involved in some really nasty face to face combat. the thugs picked up on the fact that this guy was pure hell on wheels and that he'd put a serious hurting on anyone who screwed with him. One thug noted-the way that dude moves-he looks like he has "creeped" on people
another guy noted-"that cat looks like he is looking to shank someone"
mopes can read body language. They can tell who is oblivious to danger and those who are always in "code yellow" state of alert
It has only been the last few years that I did not consider all men (except very elderly) to poise a real, imminent assault threat and acted accordingly. What I most did not like is for anyone to ever be behind me or out of my vision. However, I look scary so rarely had any problem.
A problem my wife has always had - and something I recognized from the first time I saw her - is that she looks vulnerable and like an easy target in many different regards for potential assault, harassment, or even just to approach for friendly reasons. The first words she ever heard me say in relation to her of any kind was my telling a group, "stay away from her, she's with me" - having never met her before and intervening due to seeing trouble brewing around her. Making it worse, her response to men in face, body language and voice makes it very clear she viewed such men as not worthy of even talking to her. Some men don't handle rejection by women well. Overall she doesn't like strangers and never has.
People should ALWAYS take a sense of danger very seriously and never, ever be embarrassed to seem rude or defensive in response to it. If a person, particularly a woman but really anyone, doesn't feel comfortable towards people behind them or coming towards them, they should not be embarrassed to rapidly move or reposition him/herself. The world if more dangerous than people like to believe. If violence comes a person's way, it usually comes with no notice and incredibly fast. And often it is just random or opportunistic.