Nobody would blame him for not going in...Everyone isn't the same. I would be crushed if my husband was lost to the fire as well. It would be very conflicting emotionally. There would be a little pride, but that would most likely be greatly overshadowed by the grief for losing my husband as well as my son. And I don't see many women being upset with their husbands for not going into the fire if it was too hot for firefighters. In fact, any woman who was upset/longterm blaming their husband/boyfriend, is really pretty unstable if she can't understand that her husband would have most likely died going into an inferno to attempt, foolishly, to save their child. And it would be really wrong to blame him for not being able to get passed the cops and/or firemen to save the child.